Young parents - it is being doubted reflexive. These mothers and fathers to impose themselves are often too stringent. And if you look closely, for many things you can be yourself and forgive with a clear conscience.
Not as scary as they seem, the following points:
1. "I want to take a break from the baby"
Keep in mind that any child of demands gigantic amount of mental strength. If the "boiling point" has come, it is better to accept the fact that "it is necessary to take a break from it." It's therapy. And do not listen to the inner voice that whispers, "You - a bad mother." Spiritual resources need to replenish, and there is nothing to worry about.
2. "I work and pay little attention to the baby"
If you need to work, then it should be to provide for the family. In addition, the work you do - the main / first, and the "sensitive part" of her child. We must remember: sharing time with them is measured, not hours fullness. Let the hour and a half, but fully dedicate their kids - play, indulge, have fun, and see how he would be happy. Children of this enough - any psychologist will confirm.
3. "I'm a bad example by their behavior"
In defense of the moms and dads in this matter nature says. We are all humans. And everyone - with the whole range of emotions. This does not mean you have to calm down and do the most unbelievable things. It is important to understand that everything can be corrected, even if something "bad" happened in front of the kid. While working on the bugs, you grow together.
4. "I yelled at / and it '
In such situations, many feel monsters. Even psychologists and teachers are recognized: with their children is not so as to strangers. Scientific approaches and professional technicians do not work, because the response mechanism is triggered to close, dear. Blame themselves - wasted effort. It helps daily introspection.
5. "I do not doglyadel / A"
We have established that at birth have a "built-in" cognitive mechanism. And the people under the more intensive learning speed. Up to 3 years, this rate is incredibly high. Kid makes ten movements per second. And every mom or dad worried when the nightmare of nightmares: the sound collapsed on the floor of the subject and the heart-rending cry of children immediately after. Do not panic! Nature and in this case has provided a mechanism - protective. Bones baby is very strong and at the same time flexible and mobile. Most of all a fright ends.
6. "I do not drive it on razvivashki"
And whether it is necessary? It is highly probable that in working with the child that seems important, Mom and Dad are at risk to miss his true aspirations. And if simply watching is a lot of interesting things to see. In any case, the tendency of the child to something not seen simply can not. And then it will be important to generate the right environment around. This environment and will work "for you", creating the necessary conditions for development.
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