Call to "think positive!" Is currently extremely popular. With a light hand of coaching guru, this "sacred" phrase left the advertising industry and firmly moved into the lives of ordinary people who dream of success and peace.
And, like, this really works, because samonastroy has not been canceled. However, many professional psychologists are opposed to such an interpretation of positive thinking. They are sure that there are required changes in the approach to just two key points.
Along the way, with critics argue psychologists give advice on how to make the desired changes were the most effective.
To live in harmony with itself and with the outside world, remember:
1. The problem of (any) hidden solution.
Adepts of positive thinking are convinced that in the whole should look very positive. Quarrel with husband / wife? Perfectly! Do you have a reason to spend time in peace and quiet, alone with himself. We screwed up in the report and received a scolding from the boss? Even better! Now you can with a clear conscience to look for a new job, where finally all your talents will be appreciated. This is certainly the approach of mega-positive. But good for single issues. If the troubles are repeated with enviable regularity, such a stance reminiscent of the ostrich position, burying his head in the sand. You've got to look at the situation impartially and try to analyze it. And most importantly, make the appropriate conclusions.
Then something surely, and it turns out that a quarrel with her husband did not arise from a mismatch of characters, and due to the fact that both had nothing to do. The errors in the report were made after a sleepless night spent watching the show.
2. Reality is better than it might seem.
The wisest approach is vital, according to experts - is to appreciate what you have, here and now. As soon as we stop to appreciate what we have, dreaming of something else, lose motivation, and the dream is "not willing" to run.
For example, I want to move to the sea, and we are trying day and night, imagining waves and palm trees in all its glory. But Acacia outside the window we just annoying. We do not want to notice how good it is in bloom or snow flakes. And against this irritation moving all postponed and postponed. As if "someone" does not believe that the waves and palm trees will be appreciated and will not cause irritation, like the poor thing acacia.
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