The foundation of amicable relations such as "parent-child" is a positive emotional connection. That's it builds the "flats", which is called education. But often such contact is lost. And psychologists are 6 main symptoms of its destruction:
1. Parents pay attention to their child only when he is doing something "wrong". Good perceived by adults as a matter of course, but the poor catches their eyes. And there's very few people kept remarking. But the baby learns that if he makes a mistake, the parent pays attention to him immediately. So baby, if they need to be getting attention pakostnichaya. As a result, many will begin to hide from mom and dad, keep away.
Recommendation: Pay attention only to the behavior of the child, you want to see again and again. Emphasize the positive!
2. The child does not hear praise. Or is it too much, it devalues the award. Another "well done" or "you're super" is perceived a little man as an empty sound.
Recommendation: Praise should be of high quality - only for the fact that the child has done well. This will be a sign that parents really attentive to their child.
3. No discussion of emotions - neither child nor parent. From moms and dads child often alienates the phrase "do not cry", "do not be sad," "I have everything in order, just something in my eye." The kid feels - his emotions are not interested, and about their adult simply lying.
Recommendation: It is necessary to replace the banal words more personal. You can, for example, tell the child, upset after an argument with friends, "do not be sad, I know that the quarrel with a friend - it is unpleasant, but be sure to get better." Then the baby will understand that experiencing emotions - this is normal, it will understand.
4. Failure to take the children's choice ( "he is still a little"). But children already know what they want! And offer them a choice - then cultivate independence and instill responsibility.
Recommendation: Be sure to let your child the opportunity to choose and face the consequences of the choice of.
5. Violent methods of discipline. You can not beat him, pinch, pull the baby or put it on buckwheat. The body should remain intact, as a tribute to the little person.
Recommendation: Do not hit the child, no matter what he did. Find the strength to calm down and affect children's behavior without violence.
6. Little time for socializing. With a child to play together. And both of you it should be interesting. And to sit there and dig into the phone - is not considered.
Recommendation:Spent together, playing at least 10 minutes every day.
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