Usually quarreled with someone, or having listened to his side something is not pleasant, not having the possibility to respond, we get offended, but we live on.
If the offense unit, it did not go far. But if it is a system, and you often have to deal with bitterness and a lump in the throat of someone else's words or actions - it's very bad.
There are several exercises that help to cope with grudges and do not let more with a way to treat.
1. At that time, when a person commits what is offensive action in your direction, imagine this man sitting in the dressing room or blow my nose or cleaning teeth.
I'm serious.
However he will not seem big and scary, serious and dangerous, he is just an ordinary person like you.
At this point, of course, it is important not smiling, not smirking, but just feel the fear recedes, and you put yourself in an equal role with that person.
Because of this you will no longer be afraid, and you will become a little easier.
But this is only half way.
2. When you learn to see something terrible to the offender, you need to learn not to take his words at his own expense.
How to do it?
Remember, when a person is something you said - it is his vision of the situation. Therefore, to think that all he expresses you, though - it is not necessary. He judges by itself and its principles.
3. Learn how to answer politely but firmly. Here are a few generic phrases when answering the insults (to speak calmly, confident tone):
- (If you constructively expressed your mistake) Thank you. I hear you. How can I fix it?
- (If you shout at you). I will not talk to a man in such a mood. When you calm down, call me, please, and we will continue. And care.
- (If you offend). Please do not go to the individual in a conversation with me, I'm uncomfortable. Thanks.
- (If the person continues to offend). Now if you do not stop to speak not flattering to my address, I'll go. If you continue to - go. You have been warned.
If this is your loved one, you can also use these phrases, adjusting to the situation.
Not all people are educated and know how to talk. But believe me, anyone can be taught to speak it with you - respectfully, without insults and goes to cry.
Do not be afraid to lay down conditions and literally force people to respect yourself! Because feeling your weakness people will more and more you get bogged down and do not know to what he can walk!
When you learn to react more mature and grown-up you will respect and treat you very differently.
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