How could hinder live feeling that if people behave badly, then it's your fault.
What if the husband or relatives in a bad mood - I mean something not done.
Or if a colleague gloomy - I think I upset him.
If your friends like something cold to me - so I'm not interesting.
If the queue shouted at me - well, I guess I should be and ...
How many of these situations happen in life, and do not count.
Let's try to understand where does this feeling?
First of all - it is not self-confidence.
In our head sits "judge", which tells us every time such a situation - it's your fault!
Remember when you were little, did you often hear from parents, what you are clumsy, you are upsetting parents. At a time when you did something wrong. they are either yelling or becomes cold, or not talking.
And when we once again screaming husband or boss, we unknowingly immersed in this state - we are young children, where we yelled, and by all means want to return the favor of such an important and loved person.
What to do?
First of all, you need to realize that the person behaves in one way or another, because he wants to.
Or he manipulates.
Or in a bad mood.
If the behavior of the person you are having problems, ask yourself: Do I need to communicate with such a person?
We need to understand whether or not you really are wrong (the situation may be different). But as a rule, people with such a "judge" in the head, with the behavior of all good.
Simply put, they have people on his neck, and they strongly manipulated.
It is not very easy to remove people from the neck, you need to do a lot of work on themselves. And most likely, someone even have to stop to chat or to reduce communication to a minimum. But this will be the first step towards liable to removal.
And I repeat to myself that the behavior of other people - it's not my responsibility.
People behave as they wish.
And it becomes easier.
I promise.
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