To cope with the emotional pain, people often go to psychologists. It is much easier to throw out all their emotions in front of a stranger, as a bonus to get good advice. So people are trying to quickly drown his pain, to "kill" the feelings, and then dive into the work, family and life. After all, all the pain in our feelings, and a visit to a specialist - our pain reliever.
But, unfortunately, every short-term analgesic effect. And, under the influence of environmental factors and stimuli, we again feel their pain.
What to do?
Any wound can not heal instantly. Even if it is lubricated with analgesic and wound healing ointments, the effect quickly will not work as long as the body itself begins to recover. Everything has its time!
So it is with spiritual pain. Visiting a psychologist we only mutes his pain, but instead need to go through the emotions and manage yourself. Of course, to reopen the wound is not necessary, but also speed up the healing process is not necessary. You just need to recover. Have had as you have had the flu. Lying in bed, sipping tea with lemon, alone, in silence.
You do not need to escape, running away from his problems and pain. You need to be ill, to live, to feel. No need to talk with a psychologist and with himself. Talk and empathize, to share the pain and give advice. I need to cry, pouring his emotions and anger. You need to specifically identify yourself time to be able to live their pain alone, comprehending everything that happened, said, experienced. The only way you can get yourself to forget, to forgive, to heal.
Over time, your mind will include protective mechanisms, if you are not to interfere with her. Come apathy, indifference, emptiness. You will be able to accept the situation or decision calmly, coolly, without unnecessary emotional outbursts. You will be able to live on, without suffering and without fear us recall that their pain.
Perhaps many will say that this is quite a strange recipe, and possibly painful. But, nevertheless, it works! Indeed, the effect of any analgesic is over, and the wound will cease to hurt only when healed!
