The first date, a walk in the moonlight, knee-ring march by Mendelssohn, honeymoon, and then "they lived happily ever after." Who among us does not dream of such a thing? And he stood before the altar, each couple really strongly believes that their relationship - special and had nothing bad will happen to them. But time passes, and is proving to be that all is not so rosy as it seemed at first ...
Of course, after reading the above, it is not necessary to panic and forever to say goodbye to the idea of marriage or immediately terminate the existing one, they say, still all doomed. Not.
Love - just an axiom of feelings. It is necessary to memorize each and if at some point suddenly seem that the love vanished like smoke, be sure - it has not even begun.
edition kolobok.ua I gathered for you a list of the periods of relationships that proves true love comes only with time.
• Pink glasses. In another way, this period is called candy buketny. Typically, it takes from the time the first date to 1.5 years. It was at this time in the body produced by the lovers of happiness hormones that help to see the world in bright colors. In this state of euphoria young people, basically, and decide to get married.
• Awareness. This period as litmus paper exhibits disadvantages of each of the partners, which in turn leads to frustration and the first conflict. This time - a very important foundation in any relationship, thanks to him, lays a solid future or crumbling unsustainable present. The main task of each of the partners in this period to be prepared for Reconciliation and Change.
• Confrontation. After realizing period begins when the partners begins to vigorously defend its interests, each party is deeply convinced of the correctness and the full error of the second half. At this time, love is extremely difficult to "squeeze" between skirmishes and scandals. And it is at this stage of relations rash rebellious actions most often lead to divorce. Therefore the main task of a young couple to go through all of this, in any case, not allowing the thought that this is the end.
• Co-operation and patience. After completion of the mad psychosis previous period, a new era, when the marriage is becoming more "business-like" appearance. At this stage, in addition to all present feelings and emotions that surround a pair of endless counting, career, children and care for them. Quarrels are not as dramatic and violent. But the main thing - the first shoots appear wisdom, without which it can not do in the future - and it's the law.
• Debt and respect. After about 15 years since the beginning of the relationship, the couple's life begins... the first stage of true love. Children grew up, the financial situation is stable, the dust settled and the "race to the vertical" partners no longer inspire. There comes a time when partners start to look at each other in a new way, using acquired over long life together experience and wisdom allow yourself to really enjoy the service of each other. The claim, "What I get from you?" Will forever remain in the past.
• Friendship. The time when you can implicitly trust the partner without fear of reproaches and condemnations. A time when, becoming very close, the partners finally hand in hand come into the long-awaited period of true love.
Unfortunately, not everyone is raised to such a height, having descended from a distance even at the second or third stage. In ancient times, most people passed the first stage and immediately began to "make friends" with a partner or "serve" him. In our time, too much time and energy people spend on addictive and patience, after which sometimes some did not move on, considering that it is easier to just walk away.
Marriage is very easy to destroy. But if each partner will appreciate the moment, without waiting for some better times dizzying, then be able to live happily ever after, enjoying each passing day with your loved one. I wish you happiness and understanding!
