Family life - as a living being. Honeymoon flies and adulthood begins, in which woven intricate steps, similar to the crisis of the "three years" and adolescence, a normal person.
As psychologists have found such "crises" family units experiencing an average of 6 times. Naturally, that, knowing the approach of "risk age", it is possible to prepare for the danger and to consider how to circumvent it.
6 WEEKS: Lapping
The young couple is removed "pink" glasses - simmering hormones - and understand that real person and the created image are different from each other. Begins to irritate even small mistakes in the behavior of the partner, and big surprises literally "knocked down" and make you think, and whether to continue the story? Does love continue?
It depends on how much the young couple were mistaken for each other and disappointed detected difference.
8 MONTHS: bytovuhi and rutin
"The love boat has crashed against life" - wrote in his time loving classic, knower of all the "charms" routine. At this stage, the couple have already passed the "Rubicon" the first crisis and already know all the advantages and disadvantages of each other. And if the couple advantages over this "ballast" helps to put up with the hardships of advancing the routine. If the spouses continue to "improve" each other mutual quibbling, the marriage in jeopardy.
According to the statistics, it does not hold the "cell of society" even the prospect of the imminent appearance of an heir. Fortunately, cases of domestic debacle in 8 months is small, because the love and the passion is still very strong.
2.5 YEAR: LOVE IN THE DISTANCE
The most insecure stage in family life, as hormonal back to "dovlyublennomu" that affects the sexual attraction. And the child, the housing problem, the work, the eternal need for money... In general, the same routine, only in the cube.
What to do? Re-fall in love! From time to time, spend time at a distance from each other. In this context, it is very good out of the decree on the job. The woman begins to take care of yourself, prettier - and voila! - family life is in full swing again.
4 YEARS 'shaky nest "
The child takes all my free time, one becomes aware that it will be even more difficult, and there are thoughts of nostalgia for the carefree days of youth. I want new vivid sensations. So look for the couple themselves new class or a new partner ...
Experts on the family and marriage report that at this stage, some couples run away to... make another child, but with a different partner.
7 YEARS "Bermuda Triangle"
Curiously, the psychologists had still not been able to determine a more or less common problem that pushes couples to disperse in different directions. Such reasons are many and they are very different and should not be brought under a common denominator.
Scientists, however, have found justification for his "ignorance". It turns out that every 7 years in human organism is updated - literally at the cellular level. Yes, yes, every 7 years in front of us a completely different person. It is likely that the human psyche after the expiry of this period requires originality in everything, including personal attachment. How do I know?
AFTER 12 YEARS: THE LAST RUBIKON
At this stage, all that can be experienced - quarrels, infidelity, blows, lack of money and a mortgage - families manage to survive. It would seem that now it is possible to begin to live like human beings. But no - hello, midlife crisis! A man and a woman suddenly wonder: "Is it always will be? It turns out, I have to live with this person until the end of his days? I dreamed about it?
The result - a man feels the stage of "second youth" and potential reserves, wants to again become a young father, in order to feel young in principle. Woman envy more successful and more active young girlfriend and "sawing" the wife, only increasing its zeal to try a new "youthful" role. How to be in this difficult period? Not fall into negativity and try to become young again - fitness, hobbies and... the time at a distance from each other.
It is important to give yourself a chance to miss each other, because you have lived together for a long time. And if marriage were a lot of good, this "safety cushion" necessarily work, and family life will be filled with new sounds.
