People who are in pairs, sometimes getting closer than relatives, among them reigns trust, they just dissolve in each other. Yet there are personal boundaries, the violation of which is fraught with quarrels, relationship problems and even break them. What should never require the husband what he should never ask you?
There are things that should never require from a partner. And if he decides to ask something like that from you, with arguments to explain why you can not do this. So, should not be required:
Take the blame for his aggression. The Partner has no right to demand that you feel guilty for his aggression in your address and take responsibility for it themselves. Do not allow him to speak, he raises his voice at you, insults, etc.. Etc.. for they themselves to blame, they said something and did not so much as he wanted to have provoked it. In a healthy relationshipeach person is responsible for their behavior, actions, thoughts and feelings.
Monitor your communication. The Partner has no right to tell you who you need to communicate with and who not, and even more require isolation from family and friends because they do not like him. Your circle of friends - it is solely your choice, which should not affect anyone's opinion. If the choice is trying to limit your contact with loved ones, to control it - it is a sign of emotional abuse.
Belittle your successes. In a healthy relationship partner should be proud of achieving its second half. Irritation in this case is a sign zakompleksovannosti and self-doubt. If you can not share your success with your partner without feeling embarrassment or guilt, your personal boundaries are violated.
Require to quit work. If your partner resists your career or personal growth, requires you to quit your job, refused to financial independence, if you can not manage on an equal footing family budget, mutual respect in the relationship in question.
Accept unacceptable behavior of his relatives. Your partner may not require from you that you have suffered the insults and tactless behavior of his relatives and friends. If he does not try to protect you from this and expects that you should just put up with it, again the respect we are not talking.
To mediate. He should not say, "Tell your mother, my parents, our son ...", making you this way mediator in relations with close and shifting the responsibility for his words on your shoulders.
At the root of change. He began a relationship is with you, so what you are. And he can not require you to be someone else - to force change appearance, to give up their principles, beliefs, convictions and values.
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