Recovering sex after having a baby completes the postpartum period, and outputs the relationship between the spouses to a new level. For some reason the woman does not want sex after childbirth?
The birth of a baby - great fun for the whole family, but often young mother dissolves into crumbs, completely forgetting about her husband, and that she is also a woman. After birth, a woman needs to be restored, it takes about 6-8 weeks, but after the lochia and the approval of the gynecologist, sexual relations can be resumed. But often after childbirth a woman has problems in sexual relationships, someone is held a few months later, and someone pursues the entire first year. What problems may arise and why no desire?
hormonal storms
Hormonal surge after birth / istockphoto.com
After birth, a woman experiencing hormonal surge, the primary task, rooted in the nature of a woman getting care and care for the baby, so sexual desire is dulled. In the women's body decreases estrogen production, which leads to vaginal dryness and reduced libido.
How to help? Try not to forget that you are a woman, not just a mother, because her husband and take time. If you experience discomfort due to vaginal dryness, use the special grease.
severe fatigue
In the first months after the birth of the baby and the stage "lapping", a woman is very tired: the constant lack of sleep due to frequent night feedings, and colic, hence the lack of sexual desire. In addition, a woman may be offended by her husband's lack of care and go on principle.
How to help? Childbirth - a test for the family, for your relationship with her husband, so it is important to be a team and seek the support of each other and not to conceal resentment. Ask your husband to help you better, and if he can not, then tell me what you need a babysitter, at least a few hours a day. Grandmothers are attached, they are happy to take a walk with a stroller while you get some sleep a few hours, introduce myself up or cook a hot dinner.
Complexes and fears
How to get rid of complexes after delivery / istockphoto.com
A woman's body after childbirth is imperfect, it does not have the same elasticity, and the extra weight has not gone, so the woman does not feel attractive and sexy. But all these complexes are sitting in your mind, man can not ignore the shortcomings that you yourself come up with. In addition, he realizes the fact to recover from childbirth takes time.
How to help? Restore confidence in yourself to help a beautiful linen, a new fragrant scrub. To feel beautiful, change your hairstyle, make a light makeup for a walk, buy nice clothes for a comfortable home.
Postpartum depression
Postpartum depression - is, alas, not a myth but a reality faced by about 10% of women. What kind of sexual attraction in this state can we talk? Do not neglect his fortune, the best time to apply for support to the family and friends, and, perhaps, to the psychologist, to quickly cope with this disease without serious consequences.
How to help? Tell my husband about my feelings, about what worries you, try to make sure that you substitute grandmother or nanny. But best of all, of course, seek the advice of professionals who will help you to deal with this situation.
Fear of pain
Childbirth - a painful, so a woman may fear that during sex will also experience pain. And if you had an episiotomy, and have internal or external seams, these fears are well founded. The feeling of fear is dulled and sexual desire.
How to help? To not experience unnecessary fears, before resuming sexual activity, you should consult with a gynecologist, do ultrasound and check with your doctor all the details.
The fear of getting pregnant
Contraception after birth / istockphoto.com
Immediately after birth, especially if they are severe, a woman haunted by fear of a new pregnancy, it dulls sexual desire. Fear should not become pregnant again become a hindrance in your love life, so just take care of contraception.
How to help? The main thing is not to believe in the myth that if a woman is breastfeeding, she can not get pregnant, because the first ovulation occurs before the first menstruation. To choose the right means of contraception and safe for you and your baby if you are breastfeeding it, be sure to consult a gynecologist. Until then, use condoms.
Tension and inability to relax
Often, by nightfall the young mother is so exhausted that she was not to sex, in addition, it is in constant tension and worries that a baby can wake up at any time, so do not relax obtained.
How to help? Ask for a nanny or grandmother to walk for several hours during the day with the kid on the street, and themselves, left alone, without waiting for the night, engage in sex. This may be preceded by, for example, co-bathing to relax better. All in your hands.
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