Most often, conflicts in the family arise from a misunderstanding of the spouses. Women do not understand what they actually want men, and vice versa. How to reconcile these two different planets - men and women
much easier build a married life, learning to recognize and meet the true, inherent by nature, men's and women's needs. Otherwise insults and dissatisfaction with both or one of the spouses accumulate snowball, leading often to banal infidelity. It can overcome, not every couple so much easier to begin to adjust his attitude when the first bells.
There are 5 basic needs of men and women in marriage.
1. In men there is a need for sexual satisfaction, Although many women are often denied this to their spouses, sometimes even showing it as a punishment for the slightest offense.
At the same time, women there is a need for tenderness,and they want to see its manifestation on the part of men. These two needs are directly related to each other, and sometimes turn into a vicious circle - the woman without showing affection on the part of men refuse him sex, he, in turn, without the sexual satisfaction does not show her tenderness.
2. Wife needs to communicate.S vital that husband listened and heard it, as well as emotionally react to all that she shares with him. Prior cohabitation couple talked a lot to each other, sharing the innermost thoughts and showing each other a genuine interest. Unfortunately, such an interest among many spouses eventually dies, why, and born of discontent and conflict. In total, to meet women's needs in communication must be two hours a day.
For men it is important that to cut wife's interests in leisure and hobbies.Often, before marriage, girls having fun ride with a young man fishing or hunting, walking with him in the sauna or watching football together. After some time his wife is trying to prevent, involving partner only in their own interests. Or just let him off this time alone.
The best way out of this situation, of course, is to find the points of contact. Thus, the wife will satisfy the need for the spouse, in partnership and in its interests, and receive from her husband enough "dose" of communication.
3. Every man wants to see next to an attractive companion.And this is another man's need. The woman also has a certain benefit, so as to satisfy this man's need, it keeps track of your appearance and, consequently, the health.
In parallel with this woman's appearance is not as important man - She needs his honesty and openness.If the husband hides any information (the woman always feels it), it will automatically lose a sense of security with him, and this is the thread that binds all women's needs together.
4. All women have the need for money. Despite the fact that nowadays many women work and earn an equal basis, and sometimes more than a spouse, yet However, in women there is a need in the choice between being a homemaker to remain calm or build career. And that choice she can give a man, who is next to her.
The need for men is also home comfort, which they expect from the wife.On a subconscious level, the man knows exactly what he wants to see when he returned home from work. He fantasizes that their love and affection meets quiet well-groomed wife prismotrennye obedient children. Often reality provides other images, but the need for it in men is not going anywhere.
5. Women have an increased need for that her husband was a good father to her child. And not just a good father and role model.
The man also there is an increased need for admiration. He is very important that the wife was proud of him. And women should distinguish between the feeling of admiration from the evaluation of men. Dry the phrase: "You're doing fine" - an assessment, but the admiration can be expressed through sincere feelings of women. And the phrase: "I admire you and feel your support and assistance when you're next to me" sounds quite differently, and men feel it. The main rule is that you must truly admire, not playing, even for something small and insignificant.
In addition to these requirements in each pair, of course, has its own personal. Suffice it once to sit down at the negotiating table, and not blaming each other, sincerely share with his second half performance in their life and their needs. This will play a huge role in strengthening the future relations and avoid not only changed, but also the majority of conflicts in family life.
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