You work along with her husband, but after working all things around the house fall on your shoulders? You think that you are "sewn up" at home while your spouse calmly watching TV? How to teach his help around the house?
Ideally, marriage - a partnership. But only a few men participate in housework. Why is this happening and what to do about it?
The reasons why the husband does not help
Stereotypes.No man is dealing with pots fiddle. As no man - vacuuming, washing dishes. Familiar? A lot of guys still consider housework feminine duty, hiding behind the label earner. That's when they forget that a man and a woman for a long time work on an equal basis. These stereotypes can be slowly corrected. True need effort.
He was so used. If from the very childhood, my mother brought my little boy and his dad all on a silver platter with blue border, the norm for him not to help his wife. He just saw a bad example. Such spouse is more difficult to teach to help. We need a lot of effort.
Wife too much criticism.Husband and I'm glad to help, but the dust it is not as wiping and washing machine incorrectly loaded. This case is easier to fix. Just teach him right to remove.
Strategies to accustom her husband housekeeping
Agreed. Blackmail, provocation, shouting will not help to get the man's care. Learn to negotiate. Tell me that when he will wash your floor, you play with the child and give him quietly to watch the game in the evening, for example.
Ask clearly. Husband is not a mind reader and can not imagine that the phrase "I am a housekeeper you here?" - this is your request vacuumed flat.
Do not criticize. Husband tries to help you, but it does so badly? Criticize, praising"You have such a good fellow, but it is better red T-shirt with white linens do not throw in the washing machine."
Let's tasks gradually. If your husband is up to this day did not help, do not charge it all at once.
Do not over work.When you dust after your husband, it discourage any desire to help you.
Flatter.Men love flattery, so you can use it to you advantage. Want to help her husband at home, you tell us that you can not cope without it.
A husband does not exactly help? Women often do not notice the help of a spouse, and he does all the work of a man. I broke the handle on the door, flowing tap - who will fix it? If the spouse does on a regular basis, it may not need to force it to help you around the house?
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