Love - it's not just butterflies in the stomach, the feeling of flying, joy and happiness from the fact that you are together with your loved one. The feeling of love is often accompanied by anxiety and fear can kill a relationship or even prevent them from the beginning.
Some believe that the experiences in relationships bring to them "spice" and "flavor". In part, this is true, and conflicts and unrest replaced magical emotions of joy and admiration partner. However, with the feelings and fears it is not necessary to go too far, because it is fraught with negative consequences for the relationship. What are the most common danger in the relationship and what are the ways to solve problems and to preserve harmony in the couple?
1. Fear not like
Such disturbances usually occur in the early stages of dating and first dates. Originally this fear from childhood, when a person is not getting enough attention, praise and warmth from their loved ones. Also adversely affect the likelihood of unpleasant experiences in the past. As a result, a person is afraid of being rejected. Of course, this possibility is, but is afraid of rejection you liked member of the opposite sex?
What to do? Not afraid to take the initiative and take the first step, because there is nothing wrong even if the failure does not occur.
2. Fear of new relationships
Special fear of new relationshipsIt can be strong if people in past relationships faced with betrayal or a strong offense. Or it is possible that a person accustomed to their way of life and is afraid to change anything. Thus, the emotional "closed" people for a long time to be alone, and she thought that it was time to have a serious relationship, it brings fear and strong emotion.
To avoid this situation, you are better off to reveal their feelings and emotions loved ones, and you can "work out" your fears with a psychologist.
3. Fear of marriage
Not a love boat has crashed on family life and that is what frightens you? It is likely that living under one roof will bring to your relationship a lot of conflicts and misunderstandings on the basis of such details as all the bathroom, sleep and wakefulness, or scattered on apartment things.
If you want to avoid these problems, try for some time to arrive or not to agree on the "guest" status, when each of you will have your personal space and territory. Alternatively, go to the joint holiday for a week or two: it will help you understand if you are ready to live together with your loved ones or not yet.
4. a new level of fear in a relationship
Long-term relationship involve the emergence of something new, such as the joint property or children. Most likely, such fears arise because of uncertainty about the partner. So ask yourself, what is the reason for this fear of the new stage in the relationship.
5. relations cooling Fear
This fear is inherent to those who are in long-term relationships. It would seem that your partner is fully and joint life, children, and mutual affection, and sometimes dependence, will not let you break the relationship. This understanding brings boredom in the human, because a sense of novelty and magic emotions of love in the past. And about sex extravaganza is just to remember...
And then many of us begin to think about the correctness of the choice of the partner. And sometimes begin to look for a new man in the hope that life with him would be much more interesting, and you will be loved more than the current partner. Some couples just for this reason, and to part, but later regret parting.
You will also be useful to learn about Six Important Points to free relations.
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