With a stamp in the passport does not end there, and had just started, but often people do not quite know how to build a relationship as a couple. What are some common mistakes in marriage can lead to divorce?
No one teaches how to build relationships, how to behave with her husband, how to solve conflicts. It is important to remember that the relationship - is a work of two people, but if you relax and let things take their course, the result is obvious. Here are some important tips on how a psychologist, which in any case can not be done in a marriage.
Be in search mode
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divorce statistics is becoming disappointingly every year and one of the main reasons for this frequent divorce is the fact that a person is in a constant search for the best for themselves option. That is, marrying, women were not considered and do not appreciate their partner as the sole and unique, and always looking around, hoping to see a better version and get away from his partner.
Silent about what worries
Sooner or later this behavior will break, because silence dissatisfaction and resentment only strain relations, and when the heat is so great, it is unlikely it is already possible to save a marriage. The partner can not read your thoughts, gestures, and the man all the more need to communicate very specific information. Talk about their desires, problems that are not satisfied and want to change, do not be silent.
Mourn for the past,
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If you think that marriage - is the finish point and the best thing that could happen to you has already happened, then so be it. With a stamp in the passport and life and relationships are just beginning, because at every stage of the relationship has its advantages and charms. In addition, it changes over time and feelings, and contrary to popular belief, not always for the worse.
Manipulate
In marriage you can not be selfish and care only about their own comfort and profit, otherwise it will inevitably lead to divorce. You - the union, team, partners, so both of you should be comfortable. Marriage - a Take account of others' needs, it is caring, it compromises and concessions, rather than continuous manipulation.
threaten partner
Threats - the last thing that can be applied within the framework of communication with a partner, because it means that you simply have no more arguments to prove their right. Threats will not help you achieve the desired, but only to devalue the partner's eyes.
shift the blame
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Do not look for blame, look for how to solve the problem that appears and then your life will be much easier and more comfortable. Shifting the blame on the other - it's too childish, and you are grown up and have to solve the problem in another way.
Restrict the freedom of the partner
If you limit and control their partner, this only shows your weakness and self-doubt. Never self-sufficient person will not infringe upon the needs of your spouse in communication, interests and other things. Barring something, you create a vacuum in which the person ceases to grow or, on the contrary, attract in life are too many temptations, as is well known, the forbidden fruit - sweet.
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