After the stamp in the passport is only the beginning, so the work on relationships in family life need even more than before marriage. Which crises are waiting for family and what to do to easily weather the storm in a relationship?
Even in the most strong and loving couple have conflicts and misunderstandings, so family crises- a stage through which almost every family. How successful the pair overcome a difficult phase in the relationship depends on many factors, use the tips that will help you in this difficult matter.
the first year of the crisis. The crisis of the first year of marriage is obvious, because the pair lapped each other, learning to live under the same roof as husband and wife, and maintain a joint household budget, to understand and accept each other, and not always it goes smooth. Initially, financial difficulties and the slightest problems lead to scandals and high-sounding phrases. The first thing is to teach young family this crisis - to learn to speak about their desires and needs and listen to each other. Do not push a spouse, if he is late for work, you should not sit for half an hour in the bathroom or to buy new shoes out of the money deposited in the apartment. Consult, learn to compromise and negotiate, then this phase will pass unnoticed by the lapping of your pair.
The crisis of three years.This is the time when you have got used to and know each other, vivid emotions have died down after the wedding and the rose-colored glasses are beginning to subside. There are more complaints and reproaches to each other, sometimes you realize that you did not the man for whom you are married. Yes, comes the realization that family life - it is not a continuous fun and coffee in bed, and the life, and the daily routine. In addition, often the woman at this stage of the relationship wants a baby and runs into her husband's refusal and the phrase "not yet time", alas, it exacerbates the conflict. To overcome this stage you need to realize that you are a family, not a single, that all decisions should be taken together, including with regard to the child because of her husband, hear the arguments and listen, maybe he right?
Also, try to spend more time together, the joint trip for the weekend, a romantic dinner once a week, arrange each other goodbye and nice surprises, it will help smooth out the rough edges in relations.
The crisis of the first-born. During pregnancy and immediately after birth the woman swallowed the child and did not notice her husband and his needs. But it is important to remember that the Pope paternal instinct does not start immediately, as her mother, and phrases like "you do not get", "I myself" and did discourages. The husband feels abandoned and useless. At this stage, family relations often occur treason.
Woman feels former appeal has not yet departed after giving birth, the complex, so abouttstranyaetsya from her husband and is dissolved in a child,and that becomes the cause of family dramas. Not to dismiss her husband, to bring him to the care of the newborn from the beginning, do not be afraid, that he was to do something wrong. In addition, Take time for her husband, indulge him praise, ask the grandparents to take a walk with your baby and get out at least sometimes somewhere together.
The crisis of five years. Most often, by the time the baby grew up, my mother goes to work and start a family conflicts regarding the distribution of household responsibilities. Do not make a fit and boycotts, such as "cook your own dinner by myself!" And talk, negotiate and share obligations, for example, someone is preparing dinner, and someone deletes someone cleans the apartment, and someone is walking with child. Believe me, everything can be negotiated.
The crisis of seven years.The crisis of seven years of marriage the most difficult and critical, it is also called "the monotony of the crisis." The child has grown up, everyday problems are solved, everything seems to be fine, but there is no sense to her husband, just a habit, the couple there is a need for new emotions and feelings. If a man has a mistress, it all suits, but women more often than not, so it is ready to drop everything and go on a search for vivid sensations and emotions. Only one way out - sit down and talk with her husband discuss all the points that you do not like each other, and find compromise. Perhaps a change of scenery, poedte together on vacation, to return the old feeling and enjoy each other.
14 years of marriage.It is also one of the most difficult periods for the family life of the child - the transition to adulthood, parents - midlife crisis, dissatisfaction with their lives and others. In this crisis, accumulated a lot of things and not to drown in it, in the world need to stop living discontent and find the positive aspects of life, find passion or hobby that will give you a gleam in his eyes and the desire to live in pleasure. Leave plenty of accusations and misunderstandings in family life and a chance to keep the family together.
Adult children.Life of the spouses as a whole all the time revolves around a child, caring for him, his basic needs, education, then problem solving and assistance, but when the children leave the parental home in their own swimming, spouses remain together. And, alas, often complete strangers who do not know what to talk about. Do not hurry to leave, get acquainted with her husband again, remember the feelings that agitated your blood. Spend time together, find common hobbies and breathe in their relationship a second breath.
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