There are people who, after communicating with whom you want to smile, but the soul, as if singing. But there are those that are literally suck our energy and poison our lives. Even seemingly innocuous phrases out of their mouths, make us feel uncomfortable: to feel a sense of guilt, anger, resentment. Psychologists have even invented it an appropriate name - "toxic people".
Also, as you can not use toxic or expired products for food, you need to eliminate from your diet the life of such people. It is especially difficult to do this if they are our loved ones - relatives or friends. By the way, the most frequent clients of psychotherapists are the ones who brought up"Toxic" parents.
Just difficult character? Each person has its own quirks, emotional problems, irritating other habits, many of us differ difficult character. From time to time, even irritate each other very close. Toxic people - is something else. At first glance, they may even seem quite nice and pleasant, but at one point become stiff, and even cruel. It is unsurpassed master of manipulation, which quickly calculate your weak spot and did not shun him squeeze. They at one time can twist your words and make you guilty.
Often toxic people suffer from mental disorders, and they are not diagnosed because as having at any problems they refuse to admit it, preferring to blame for them others.
Unfortunately, most of the toxic people, like parasites attach themselves to people with good hearts. Choose those who are ready to solve their problems and to forgive again and again. After all, good people tend to see the good in others and much easier to use.
On what grounds can recognize a toxic person?
- In relationships, they used to take a lot more than give in return.
- They are selfish. The interests of other people only if they can be used for personal purposes.
- They are always eager to prove their case, even if it's just talk.
- Their behavior in public and in private with you is very different.
- In one second, for no apparent reason from a nice person, they can turn into evil and cold.
- They set you against others, assuring that nobody can be trusted.
- They regularly lie, twist the words, trying to convince you that you are misunderstood, we are not heard.
- They never admit their mistakes, always find the guilty in their troubles. Trying to put the situation in this light, to make you feel guilty and manipulated.
How do they do it?
Toxic people are always looking for an opportunity to use you, and for this he skillfully uses various means of manipulation. Understand that you can manipulate on such grounds:
1.He was always in a difficult situation, and you have to save him. Another version of the trying to fix it, because we believe that in his heart he is good.
2.You find an excuse his behavior.
3. you feel depressed or exhausted next to him.
4.You can never predict his reaction to the incident and are in constant tension.
5.Sometimes you think you know it's not.
6. You are trying in every way to avoid situations that upset him.
7. If he's upset, you feel guilty, do not understand why they did not.
8.You can never be sure that he's telling the truth.
Relationships can be difficult, but they should bring joy. If you notice that the relationship with a man bring you constant negativity, feelings of depression, guilt, It affects your self-awareness, self-esteem and well-being, even without regret dispose of such person. Take care of yourself and your loved ones!
And be sure to ask abouthow to protect yourself from energy vampires
