The first part of the article is available here.
The secret to successful completion of the first stage of the relationship is to accept the partner the way you saw it in the beginning of the relationship, and to treat it the same way. And all the rest - only tests that need to go.
Tests will inevitably begin the second stage, the stage of recognition that spring smoothly into relations in the summer and begins to bake the first tiff, rumble quarrels and bloom bright colors reconciliations.
The key word of this phase - "made for each other." Love turns into a relationship, Dating replaced by cohabitation. Love becomes stronger partner gives a sense of security.
It seems that you are made for each other: you have common goals, you become closer and dearer every day. And you get to know each other better and better every day.
Willy-nilly you start to notice that have not seen before, do not attach importance to, not paying attention. Nasty little things, flaws and annoying traits, differences and disputes in some small and not so small issues.
The thing is that there comes a psychological fatigue - both you and your partner. To be constantly in tune with each other, to show itself at its best, please, please seek - is not easy. And why? After all, you are already well along, one. One can relax and be themselves.
In this case, your expectations for your partner is not going away. After all, you are still waiting for him conformity to the ideal. And when reality diverges from the dream rolls irresistible desire to transform and change. That he was the same as before.
No illusions - next to you all the same person. And getting to know his faults - a natural process of life, or does not happen. Keep in mind the words of Eddie Murphy: "nobody is perfect, just find the same crazy as you are." Here it is next to you, as crazy. He just finds you at this stage, and not all the discoveries cause joyful emotion. But he's still close!
The secret to successful completion of the second stage is to not try to change the partner. In your relationship still has life "love" in order to lay a solid foundation of mutual respect. To know each other and learn to accept. Jokes and calm conversations about what you do not like and annoying each other, to help build a bridge of trust.
It was on this bridge you can go third, the most dangerous and impassable stage. It was on the third step stumble almost all couples, and many relationships are moving into the category of "former".
To be continued...
