Resentment is interconnected with a sense of guilt and understanding. Taking offense, we give the opponent to understand that we do not like something in his behavior or attitude to us, if at all it seems unacceptable. In this case, the offender does not always understand why offended by it, and in this case can be harmed not only the relationship, but also hurt health.
Resentment - is one of the emotions, helps us to understand the other person's needs and feelings. It is very important to learn to listen to and hear each other, as well as rational thought. Because, seriously offended, and for nothing, we are doing damage and relationships with family and loved ones, and yourself, to your health.
Causes and consequences of injuries
On whom we usually get offended? On the people close to us, colleagues at work or school, ie those with whom we are in regular contact, and who have to co-exist.
On foreign to us people we have offended: stupid to keep evil at a street lout, which never meet, or to the seller, who refused to make a good discount on the product.
Of course, the offense - a negative emotion, but it helps us to understand the mood and feelings of another person, as well as to determine the true desires of the opponent. By the way, sometimes excessive touchiness may be a manifestation energy vampires.
So, understanding that you hurt a loved one, allows us to "adjust oneself" to each other and to learn to live and work together.
But with such a hard "tool" as an insult, we must be extremely cautious. First, the opponent can not always understand what it is you are offended: the conflict is not resolved, and the relationship will deteriorate significantly. And secondly, the representatives of the inner circle can be divided into two camps, supporting one side or another, which can cause serious conflict and quarrel a lot of people.
The health effects of resentment
Resenting someone else, it is important to remember that, we, first of all, against themselves. Thus, the constant experience of resentment, especially concealed and did not have the energy yield, leading to psychosomatic disorders.
This leads to autonomic disorders, and we, in other words, begin to ache. In this way the body protects the nervous system from more serious disorders, "distracting" us on the other vegetative disorders: problems with the gastrointestinal tract of the most serious "response" to the frequent insults, although our body's reaction may be very different.
You'll probably remember the phrase "all diseases of the nerves," - this is the case in reality. The most dangerous consequences of constant undercurrents offense may be even malignant tumors. And this is an occasion to reflect, is not it? Therefore, for your own health better or not to be offended or to forgive.
Influence of resentment relations
Resentment - is a kind of a claim, we have offended the man. The causes of such claims are the differences in the outlook of loved ones, and the difference in their views on certain issues. Therefore, it is important to learn to accept the views of others and respect it, otherwise the consequences can be very unpredictable.
As the offense affect the relationship? The consequences can be very different from a simple conflict to complete disappointment with loved ones person and the final rupture of relations.
Unwillingness to understand the close and take his point of view - it is nothing but a manifestation of self-centeredness offended. Therefore, before you try to change someone else, try to understand themselves: perhaps your presentation of the problem are wrong or have the right to life, and your approach to it, and your option opponent. Compromise in this case is the perfect way to resolve conflicts and to maintain cordial relations.
You will also be useful to know, how to forgive and let go of resentment.
