Any one of us at least once found himself in a relationship that is about to fall apart. And it all started so beautiful, and very recently it was all good. It seemed that it always will be. It turned out, it seemed.
In a relationship - a dead end... As the road - were at an impasse, nowhere to go, and it is impossible to stand still. The man who next, suddenly turned into a stranger - an unpleasant, prickly, unpredictable. Is it me once admired? Probably, this is the end... Do not rush to judgment. All in your hands.
Relationship - it is work. A happy relationship - a lot of work. To construct them, we need not only to love. Although without, of course, can not do. Still it is necessary, as they say, the process of understanding.
Did you know that absolutely any relationship are subject to a single universal law of life - the law of cycles change? Cyclicity laid in everything - from the changing seasons to mood swings. Relationship - is no exception. Understanding the cyclical process, the awareness of a special stage on which your pair is now dwells, is the key to right actions, to avoid errors, it is easier and faster to get past crises that accompany change cycles.
According to modern psychology, the relationship consists of several stages. However, not all couples can go through them unscathed. Many go the distance, barely reaching the middle. They do not think about what challenges and cracked - just a steep mountain passes on the long road of building a strong relationship. A relationship that was never given a chance to "grow up."
Nearly 40 years of research psychologists needed to formulate a sequence of stages in the development of relations between man and woman. And the experienced pair, who have lived for decades together in sorrow and in joy, unanimously confirm that everything is as it is.
So beginning. Wonderful period dating relationship spring. The key word of this phase - "Search". What are we looking for? A man who realizes all of our expectations and dreams, the desires and will match the reflection of our inner masculine or feminine ideal. This ideal is formed in us more than a dozen years, from childhood, we observed a relationship between the parents, listening to stories, watching movies. And gradually formed a personal image of the ideal partner - as it looks like "sounds" as supplied. It is this way of living in your head at the first stage - the stage of love. Enamored body tirelessly produces the hormone of happiness, and you are sure - this is ideal. After all, he is such as you imagined - without any flaws! No doubt about it - it will always be.
Why did people initially perceived as a long-awaited ideal, but after a couple of years - very different? Because you are still in the first stage and did not know each other. Stage of "recognition" - ahead.
To be continued ...
