so often it happens that in the confusion of days, we lose the best of friends. What to do to keep the priceless gift of good relations for many years, tells the psychologist.
No wonder it is considered that the best friend we buy in the young year. With age, the more difficult to make friends than in childhood and adolescence (of course, every rule there are pleasant exceptions). If you have a friend with whom you have many years of not spill water - cherish your relationship, it is no wonder they say that an old friend is better than two new ones. How to maintain a friendship, despite all the circumstances of life?
Do not break off the old relations. Life is constantly changing, we are in the whirlpool of events: a new job, change of residence, whirlwind romance, and then - marriage, family troubles. It would seem that it is possible to do without the old ties. But it will take time, life will go on track, the children grow up. There will come a time when he wants to talk to an old friend, something to remember to laugh. A conversation can not happen - for lost time, the difference in the interest alienate people, make them strangers.
Whatever you are busy right now, if you can not for frequent meetings with her friend, does not break the thread connection permanently - take a few minutes to make phone calls, vayberu, in social networks. Congratulate on the holiday and write a short sms, at least once a month to remind myself.
Find common interests.What if, for example, you went to the same school or college, started working together in the same companies had a common circle of friends and a lot of topics for discussion, and now your separate ways, and each has its own a life? If you wish to maintain a relationship with his girlfriend, change the format of communication, connect common interests.
• agreed to meet in a cafe, make them traditional - for example, once a month. If your office next to great - get out together for dinner - a pizza, a walk, a coffee.
• Enroll in courses in handicrafts, or start attending a fitness club.
• Introduce your friend to make new friends, enter it in your social circle.
• Invite to join interest groups in social networks, in which you are a member.
• Ask a friend to become a godmother for your child - it will make it a family member and rock for life.
Do not envy the success and support in a difficult moment. None of us is immune from failures, ups and downs. Often, when a friend's fortunate develops life: a rich boyfriend, modern apartment, the money work, and you have - a rented room, dreams of a good job and a prince on a white horse, there is a nagging feeling envy. It is a natural human reaction is not unusual. Try to reformat the negative energy into positive envy - sincerely rejoice for a loved one. Remember that life - their unpredictable sharp turns and unflattering circumstances of life - a great incentive to change your life for the better! Be sure to come and feast on your street.
Strong friendship extends and fills new colors our life, it is important for such simple things as understanding and support. And what could be more valuable?
And be sure to find out about 5 languages of love, and check whether you are able to talk to them.
