Conscious Parenting - a difficult burden. Do not hurt education, not to injure the psyche, see talents to create the conditions for the disclosure of abilities, not spoiled, but do not break down, build a relationship of mutual understanding, trust, respect - highscore for each charge parent. But how many it works in practice?
Even before his birth babies behave differently. Some people choose energy-intensive "behavior strategy" - to actively move, kick, spin. Do it often and for a long time. Others, however, are "energy-efficient" way of life - quietly rising, tossing occasionally, and waiting in the wings. So in many ways behave future extroverts and introverts.
On the question of a psychological personality type congenital or the result of education, socionics gives a definite answer - the innate personality type. A training or it may fill (and then grows harmonious identity), or deform (and then "self-concept" personality is not formed, a person can not find myself, and the happiness factor low).
According to the observations of scientists, if the child's parents - representatives of one socionical quadra and consist of dual relationships or relationships of activation, the child is often born with a type belonging to the same quadra often inheriting the type of father. It is wonderful on all sides - the child will grow up in a close and clear values, and that the best conditions for the development of a harmonious personality.
In such families are usually parents understand their children's interests, support their hobbies, and in communication problems occur infrequently. Adolescence runs without stress - in fact find themselves among understanding people much easier! Children from such families more easily defined with the profession. In one quadra relationship of psychological conflict there.
If the child's parents - representatives of two different Blocks, in practice the child is a representative of the third quadra, often antagonistic mother of the child. It is clear that parents, for all their love can not because of their personality types and values their quadra give the child what he needs. Education in this case prevents a person to come to himself. People who have not found themselves, as a rule were not brought up his quadra.
Obviously, the sooner parents find out your personality type and your child, the sooner it will be possible to avoid the errors of education. Do not bring up and nurture, guide and create conditions for the development of the person is your child help socionic knowledge.
At what age is manifested personality type, and can be typed with the child? Psychological type is manifested at birth, and watching your baby can be a lot of interesting things to notice - in the movements, facial expressions, needs.
For example, sensory love bold experiments with food - porridge knead into fists, watching as it gets between the toes or smear food on the table. Intuity go more easily, and moves the child-sensing louder and harder. With approximately 3 to 7 years psychological type is most pure. The system of social programming has not yet imposed clog type templates. A children's interests can be a lot to say about the baby.
Cartoons and fairy tales, which are like the kid - he finds in them the values that are close to him. A favorite heroes are often the type of identical (ie, exactly the same as) child.
For example, a well-known fairy-tale hero Emelya. This intuitive-ethical introvert (Yesenin). Basic intuition told him the time the right moment for action. He abruptly stood up, made friends with the right people, the whole situation as he should, and he was lucky.
Baba Yaga - it is the ethical-intuitive extravert (Hamlet) - woman impulsive, hysterical character that can make a joke, and maybe punish. But if you find her approach, complain about life's troubles (as did Emelya), she will like and will help. If Baba Yaga is an enemy, it can deal with him as Hamlet - this is the second and squares will sensorics in values.
Bogatyr Ilya Muromets - sensory-logical extravert (Zhukov). The concentration of heroic qualities, strength and desire for heroism characteristic of this fantastic character. All questions hero used to solve the power, all the complex questions as to simplify. This approach to solving problems typical of will sensorics.
Watch the what cartoons, movies, books and heroes like your child. Another source of information - watching the games are played the baby. For example, introverted logic of love with the game designers - because it does not need to communicate with other people, you can sit on their own and build something! These children stay at home all day and not get bored.
But the children of ethics-extroverts can not be alone. In the garden they hate the quiet hour. Lying in silence for them unbearably difficult. They were not put to bed, are pouring energy. And they prevent children sensory-logical introvert (Gabin) who want to sleep.
Play in the "Mothers and Daughters" like children with a strong white sensorics (eg, Dumas) and children Ethics (Dostoevsky). But the "cops and robbers" and "voynushki" - favorite game of children with a strong-willed sensorics (2 and 3 quadra). Insatiable curiosity, a thirst for new knowledge, interest in the study of nature, to the new information occur in children of the first quadra - especially Don Quixote (intuitive-logical extravert).
Such observations of their children and correct assessment of what he saw - the best answers to the question - who is best to be a child in the future. Because while the child will grow up conscious choice of profession - his head lay society unwanted patterns that are quite capable to confuse him. And by the end of the school teenagers do not know where to walk and what profession to choose.
According to statistics, only 8-10% of graduates work on a profession. Observation of their children help choose a school, choose a circle, the teacher, the regime of the day, the load. In order to understand what your child - let him choose. After all, if you buy him a toy, and he plays them - is one thing. But if he chooses himself, that he is interested - so manifest his innate tendencies.
Knowing your socionic type allows you to plan your life and and to avoid many mistakes. Our aspiration in childhood - the most sincere and most correct. The task of parents - to help your child understand their type and allow to find themselves.
