We all know how easy it is to undermine the relationship of trust level. And when it comes to parents and children, there already are two problems: it is difficult and trust and confidence.
How can a child learn to trust? This site kolobok.ua said Paul Kowalski - the main expert of the reality show SuperZhіnka on TET, a psychologist and a specialist of conflict resolution.
Listen
It is a long and difficult path. Allow the child to talk and not to condemn him. All you need in this situation - to ask clarifying questions. So you can better understand the motives and actions of the child.
Be realistic
Everyone lies. Both you and your husband, and colleagues at work. Be patient in such situations. Remember that your children are just learning to live and grow. Can be confusing, but trust and integrity also need to teach kids, you teach them to safety. If the child is somehow undermined the confidence, do not react sharply. It is better to weigh all, cool down and only then talk about the causes and consequences of what happened.
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Sensibly assess the impact of fraud
If a child broke the cup, the punishment house arrest will not do. A failure to return home can not be penalized dishwashing. Find the consequences that will be taught responsibility, not to punish. And always try to understand the root causes. Perhaps a cup smashed when washing dishes, etc. With this approach, the child will be honest with you.
Tell your child the truth, in response
Follow your promises and said that the child had seen a vivid example of the behavior. Teach children to give only real promise, though try not to succumb to peer pressure in this matter.
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Entrust child specific duties
This will help you to trust, and he accustomed to independence and the desire to justify the confidence. The issue of trust is not the child in the child's plane, and the parent. And only depends on the parents, if you can trust her as a child.
