If the birth mother of the child is a long-awaited miracle and happiness, the future popes this event, and especially post-natal period, can enter into a state of stupor. How to cope with the new role and to support his wife in motherhood?
This does not mean that men do not like their wives and children, just their "paternal instinct" mother slept longer. Dear Pope! For detailed instructions, nobody will give you, but there are 9 things you need to remember once and for all.
child - now a major in your family. Your woman will no longer pay you that amount of attention as before. Now she is - my mother and all of her free time is devoted to tiny helpless creature that may not yet have their own and go to the toilet. And soup can warm themselves and themselves.
Your wife pursues constant fear. Fear of losing a child. Fear of doing something wrong. Fear not be a good mom. Fear does not justify the confidence of his mother and a neighbor, who tries to convince her that she was doing wrong. You see how many phobias? Support her in this difficult time. Let it not be possessed also the fear of losing her husband.
The woman does not feel beautiful. 95% of women after childbirth are gaining weight. Reset it - is rather complicated and time-consuming process. She does not have time right now to be painted and put on a chic dress. She feels not only ugly, but also useless. Have you heard of postpartum depression? We assure you this is no joke. Please support her and make sure that it's still the most beautiful woman in the world.
She is not interested in clothes and the usual hobbies. Even if restless grandmother day sit with the child, the young mother can hardly will rush with her husband to the disco. And if such a crazy idea at it and there it all night to worry about how the baby is there home without it. Just understand and support their women in this difficult period.
You can become a scapegoat. Understand that to be angry with the child's mother can not yet. Yes, it is small and a lot of shouting. I do not sleep at night. But how it is possible for it to swear? Be prepared for the fact that you will become a "scapegoat", and all the stones will fly to you. What is there to recommend? If you love your wife, be courageous and persistent. This period will end soon.
Now she needs protection. Become her support and support. Sometimes she just needs a hug in the evening you and pull over to the strong man's shoulder. And sometimes require more decisive action. For example, in a dispute between it and the grandmother of the child does not need to give up, but just ironic hugged the wife's mother and say, "Mom, well, yes, we do face it. Your daughter knows better than anyone what to do. "
Take care. And in words and in deeds. Ask beloved wife as she is now feeling well, if you need to go to the store. And please kindly ask you though sometimes their own walk with the stroller on the street. If you are afraid of, start with short walks of 15-20 minutes. The baby is likely to be just to sleep, and you will overflow a sense of pride in the mission. Well, the wife can at this time to cook dinner or get some sleep.
Let it rest. Strange as it may sound, it is now necessary to permit relaxation. It aims to be perfect in everything. And the house is perfect to clean up, and with a child to engage in, and to please her husband. At this rate, soon it just fall down. Persuade... No - make it a rest!
Wife loves you. You became her even closer, because now you're not only her husband, but also the father of the child. Without you, the world would not have a baby. She loves you infinitely, just now can not do adequately show. Therefore tell her about it yourself. And as often as possible.
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