The life of a woman on maternity leave resembles Groundhog Day, and often the accumulation of physical and psychological fatigue translate into emotional burnout. What is it and how not to bring themselves into such a state?
emotional burnout syndrome in 1974 introduced the American psychiatrist Herbert Freydenberger. Development of the state contributes to the monotonous routine activity, intense, emotionally or physically, which is also not paid properly. Though initially the term was not used to their mothers, and more to physicians, psychologists, teachers, volunteers, those whose work is related to the constant care of someone. But my mother acts simultaneously as each of these professionals, so kind, emotional burnout can also be applied to it.
How to deal with the emotional burnout
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Mom not her day off or a holiday does not end at 18:00, when she can breathe a sigh of relief and relax. Spending in constant tension every day, my mother was very tired and burn out, because care and child care is not as easy as they seem at first glance. In addition, the young mother goes to the load of everyday life, and often also work. How to cope with all this, how to love yourself and your child, it does not feel like a bad mother not to cry at night, out of despair?
Use our tips, and in no case do not bring themselves to such a state. Remember, in the airplane, in the event of an emergency, you need to put on an oxygen mask on yourself first, and then for a child, for if you do otherwise, you may lose consciousness and can already no longer take care of baby.
Look for the most convenient options for yourself
It is important to understand that a child should not be the center of your life, you need to embed it into your own. It is not necessary to constantly worry about how to entertain and serve the child, looking for options that will be comfortable for everyone. For example, not to prepare for all separately, practice teaching lure, not to postpone their business on then, do them with your child. This not only leads you to be more mobile and have more free time, but also to teach the crumbs proper interaction in the family.
If the mother is bad - bad and child
Mother and child - are united, this is especially true for a child's first year of life, so if the mother is tired and angry, the child takes over all that and instead to sleep, naughty, does not fall asleep for hours and "hangs" on hands. Calm down, take a break, treat yourself to something, lie down to relax with your child breathe out to be for remains a source of joy and happiness.
Do not tie yourself to the child only
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Mom, of course, may, can and knows everything better than others, but in a non-stop with the baby does not last long, so the separate responsibilities. Nurture around the child "village attachments" - Dad, grandparents, aunts and uncles, godparents, let these people also will be for the baby family, able to replace you at any moment. So you will be able to "airing" when you need it or solve some of his affairs, he was excommunicated from the crumbs.
Do not sit at home all the time
Standing Groundhog Day can be a maddening, so try to diversify his life. Go to the site, to the nearest park, went on nature, on a picnic with friends, go to the cinema on children's session at the exhibition. Your leisure time is up to you, but even for mom, it can be varied in the decree, it is necessary only to want.
Seek an outlet
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You just need something to do, in addition to the child. It can be a hobby: knitting, embroidery, scrapbooking, painting or beading, anything, as long as it brings you pleasure.
Do not try to be perfect
Understand that your psychological comfort and peace of mind is more important-washed floors, freshly ironed linen and soup. Shares responsibility with her husband, not to burden all by yourself and do not try to do everything everywhere.
Ask for help
Do not hesitate to ask for help, it does not take away from you the title of the ideal mother, but will be filled with emotionally and to give the child and family joy. Ask Grandma to take a walk in the park with a stroller, her husband - to stand up to the baby at night, a sister - help you make a billet for a week. Relatives may not know how you find it hard, so do not hesitate to ask them about it.
Be proactive
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Activity - a pledge of vivacity and good mood. Not necessarily to visit a gym, you can practice at home. Just 10-15 minutes of exercise will allow you to be toned and in good spirits. Set the pedometer and count how many steps you walk per day should be the life of at least 10,000.
Look for people with similar interests
Often, after the birth, many friendships break off, do not despair and fill the void. Familiar with the mothers of children the same age as yours, reconnect with classmates, who also have children. If the child has grown up, leave it on the daddy go grandmother, while they themselves go on an interesting master class, where you will also find people that are close in spirit and interests.
Do not replace real life virtual
If you've led a busy life, the decree will be a test, but do not look for an outlet in social networks and TV shows, do not replace real communication virtual. Constant "hang" on the Internet can only aggravate your emotional state.
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