Motherhood - it is a great happiness. And Mom, is not ready to enjoy after giving birth to their new status, causing a lack of understanding from others. Especially if it is not a single mother with no means of livelihood, as a married woman and her baby healthy. Well, really, what else is needed? After all, many and did not get to conceive and give birth to a healthy baby. As they say, live and enjoy, as she sulk.
Many years of post-natal depression, no one even spoke. Attention was paid to the physical health of mothers, but not mentally. And now postnatal psychological disorder is perceived by many as a whim. Nevertheless, it suffers from one form or another every fourth mom. Just talking about it is not accepted. Motherhood - this is happiness, period. And women are silent and do not share their feelings with loved ones even accumulating tension and feeling shame and embarrassment of their condition, or fear of being mistaken for lunatics and be taken away from them child. And even more so, few people know that postpartum mental disorders - it is not only depression, but other emotional status - such as increased anxiety, OCD (obsessive compulsive disorder), neurosis or psychosis. It does not always manifest itself in the form of depressed mood, tearfulness or desire to kill himself.
Anger and irritability. The woman has a feeling of aggression strangers before her scale: the desire to throw things, break the dishes. She is ready at any moment to break on others. Rage occurs even in relation to the child, for which he then tormented by guilt.
Distraction and "haze". Everyone is familiar with the phenomenon of "brain prolactin", when in connection with the development of prolactin hormone necessary for breast-feeding, a woman becomes scattered, her memory deteriorates. Every young mom faced with the fact that she threw in the trash dirty laundry and diaper put in the washing machine. But in this case we are talking about the state of the cube, on which, moreover, often imposed increased anxiety or depression and to operate in this state become completely unrealistic.
Scary thought.In my head all day scrolled terrible pictures and terrible thoughts about what might happen with the baby: "And suddenly his head stuck in the railing crib, he will fall out of my hands, suffocated in his sleep or drowned in the bath? "Somewhere nearby there is the idea in the subconscious," and yet it will be my wine. " Pour oil on the fire all sorts of talk shows and terrible news, which tells about mothers who killed their children. As a result, the head starts to throb thought: "What if I do that?" And the day passes like in a horror movie. Women usually no one recognized it, trying to cope with their own nightmare, because they are afraid, that they will be mad for manyachek that pose a threat to the child, and sent to forced treatment.
Emptiness inside. Depression can manifest itself a sense of emptiness, detachment from reality, indifference and complete indifference to the child, the desire to hide away under a blanket or run on a desert Isle. To this all mixed with a feeling of guilt, because we all know that a mother must love her baby and enjoy motherhood.
Insomnia.You can often hear the advice addressed to mothers with young children: "Sleep when your baby and". But it is not always easy to do. Woman totally exhausted and collapses from exhaustion, but can not fall asleep. All night she lies and listens to the breathing of her child: "And suddenly from them that something will happen." It is also one of the symptoms of postpartum depression.
Physical well-being. All rasbalansirovano body and attempts to collect himself come to nothing. You do not have a cold - but you aching body and headache, not poisoned, but the problems with digestion. A heart for no apparent reason begins to beat, as if about to jump out of his chest. Depression can manifest itself on a physical level and inexplicable malaise.
first,what you need to know - from what you all feel, you do not become crazy or a bad mother. Postpartum mental states occur for various reasons - obstructed labor, hormonal surges and other objective factors.
Second - you are so not alone. Although you are the Network, you are not likely to find similarities with their stories, but it's just because no one wants to recognize itself as "a failed mother."
And finally, though postpartum depression is often the case, it should not be the norm and from the need to get rid of. It is best to do a good turn to a psychologist who can help rectify the situation. You may be quite a few interviews to understand the problem and correct the situation. In some cases, it can be assigned to drugs that are compatible with breastfeeding.
It is very important in this case the support of close friends. And very soon, you will be able to fully enjoy motherhood. Take care of yourself and your loved ones!
And we would very much like to every happy daddy definitely told my wife here these 7 phrases when she returns from the hospital with the baby.
