How to prepare yourself for decree: Psychologist

On the psychological preparation for the decree said Kolobok. UA expert "Stosuєtsya skin" (channel "Inter") and YouTube-blogger lily King.

To this we must prepare ourselves and to understand look at motherhood without idealization, but without too much drama. Change the schedule, the level of responsibility, sleep mode, change the relationship with her husband and herself. It is therefore very important to take this fact and prepare yourself for a little practice.

It would be nice to spend time with friends and their kids, to be a carer for someone else's child. That is to say, try on and listen to yourself. Ask yourself important questions: How do I organize my new schedule, when I become a mother? Who will help me? What hobby and pastime will have to fill in the time? As my husband and distribute household duties? How do I organize your holidays?

body change

We must understand that your body will be different. It is necessary to learn to accept and love yourself different. This does not mean that we should accept the challenge and do nothing. Not! It is important to just take himself in a kind, accepting and loving is not the ideal form.

It's not just about excess weight. Stretch marks, cellulite, skin laxity. Play sports immediately after birth can not. Check out this topic more before pregnancy. Gather information, which can then be based.

Learn about nutrition, procedures, exercises. Take advice from experienced moms, examples of which inspire you, ask to share invaluable experience.

negative perceptions

Perhaps this is the main problem.

Many look at motherhood as stints in prison with imprisonment from 3 to 18 years. Woman posing on a cross. Considers that it would never be queen, she is doomed to endless service to children, families, need to forget about self-realization, and the development of their desires. And the reality of just doing your mental program. It is important to learn to have personal boundaries and look at the situation as a whole, without going to extremes. After all, the role of mother is one of the many roles women. Even you are a princess, a muse, a witch hunter. mother's role is not to steal the rest of your incarnation, but only diversifies them. The main thing is that you do not forget about all the other roles that bring you joy and pleasure.

Postpartum depression.

As a rule, it occurs due to the fact that at the time of motherhood are aggravated all the problems that have been before. The decree - this is the period when a woman spends much time with his thoughts. Distracted by work, communication is no longer possible. You are alone with their problems. A close - only a baby. And it must be a good mother to him, and you get unstuck.

Good prevention of postpartum depression is a conflict detection before pregnancy.

This refers to the internal and external conflicts.

Analyze your relationships, your own belief systems, blocks.

It is important to understand that this is a disease, and not your laziness, wine or a whim. The basis of the disease - an abnormality in the neurochemistry of the brain metabolism, so it is important not to self-medicate and consult a specialist.

material dependence

Once Margaret Thatcher said: "Without financial independence, no independence can not be."

It's true. In the reality of our lives financing period of maternity leave longer disturbing than reassuring. Not every woman can fully rely financially on a man. And men are different. Sometimes unexpected and not entirely pleasant discoveries about the personal qualities of the husband found out when a woman bound hand and foot with motherhood. This is - an unpleasant experience when you have to account for every little thing her husband, any purchase justify undergo restrictions deny yourself the usual details.

Often, the story becomes pathological: abuse, scandal, humiliation, betrayal, alcoholates and drug addiction. And the woman is forced to endure, because "there is no place to escape with the baby," "there is no money to live", "work can not go, because I was a kid"

Agree, not the most pleasant experience? Therefore, we must prepare for motherhood materially. Yes, to have their own money, carefully laid up on a second occasion. As the saying goes, hope on her husband, but she did not make a mistake. Will not be superfluous. Do you agree?

In addition, immediately arrange for themselves and others accents correctly - you are not on vacation, you are - at work. 24/7 - non-stop schedule of mom, no weekends, holidays, and sick pay.

And it's completely wrong. Many of us do not know how to ask for support, take care. Themselves are closed by contact, rash thinking that no one needs and not interested in the decree. This leads to isolation and loneliness.

It is also very important to have to have a family tradition, "my mother's salary." This is the amount that is allocated from the budget of a family, and that belongs only to you. For it is not necessary to report, it can be spent entirely on a favorite. This will significantly reduce your anxiety and give more pleasure.

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