All parents know the situation when their cute little angels turn into real monsters - screaming, rolling on the floor, smashing everything in its path, and did not respond to comments. The impression that they are doing everything possible to parental patience snapped and gone to a course strict measures of education.
But not everyone knows that in reality most of the children do not do so on purpose. They just do not yet know how to control their emotions, and braking processes of the nervous system has generated too weak. Sometimes it seems that the child is misbehaving and deserves punishment, but in fact - it is only a part of its development and formation of personality.
He did everything SPITE! You ask for it, for example, do not throw the toy, and he continues to do so. This is not because he is not obedient. Pointless to criticize him and to appeal to the conscience, because the brain areas responsible for the self-control, are formed only to four years, and it is very difficult to resist until this age child temptations.
OH ingratitude! You have dedicated your child all day: went to the children's entertainment center, zoo and ice-cream parlor, and on the way back pipsqueak rolled hysteria.
Do not blame the kid for being ungrateful. Psychologists say: action games and fun must be balanced in a child's life boredom and quiet pastime. Violation of the regime of the day and too strong emotions, even positive, lead to strain on the nervous system, and hence the breakdown and hysteria.
What had come over him ?! Child for no reason at all, just the plain threw a fit in the park for a walk? Perhaps he is not satisfied with the basic needs. In other words, most likely, he was hungry, thirsty, tired or sleepy.
It would seem, well, explain calmly that hungry. But the kid yet, and he is hardly aware of the reason for his failure. He simply feels uncomfortable and reacts to it. He and so difficult to control your emotions, and on the basis of reduced priority needs - it's completely unrealistic.
He can not behave in a public place! Child something upset, for example, he did not get in store desired, or a bruised knee on the playground and scandal. Do not scold him for it. An adult is able to control strong emotions and understand when their expression is inappropriate, and the child may scream and cry where an adult can help it.
OH ME will spread throughout the apartment! Kid jumping, jumps, grabs and throws everything on the floor. The impression that the pope in his small motor. Make sure that the child had enough exercise. Kids for the full development must walk in the fresh air, run, play active games, ride a bike and visit the playground.
He did not listen! You have a very annoying that a three-year daughter, who only yesterday was a sweet and docile girl, today in any does not want to wear a nice dress that you bought it recently. Instead, it requires a sprawling old sweater, which is now completely on the weather? At this age, children begin to develop their own - and it is right and inevitable. Let your child learn to understand their desires, to make decisions and take responsibility for them.
He's an aggressive behaved! Child rude talking with other kids on the playground or nervously turns with toys? Do not rush to accuse him of callousness. Observe how you react to the child's behavior, for example when he takes without asking your stuff or too long going into the garden at the time, when you are late for work. Children - our reflection, which is exactly copies the emotions of parents. Sometimes it is enough to change your reactions to your child's behavior and attitudes, and emotions of the baby to what is going to change.
OH naughty when you do not get the desired! Yesterday, the baby got to walk a sweet and today you refused him, because he did not take with your money or do not want him to interrupt your appetite before dinner. Yesterday read bedtime stories, but today denied because they are tired at work. Baby do not understand this approach - it needs a clear framework and boundaries. Children love rituals, predictability and stability. Set rules that must be observed at all times by all family members and whims will be much less.
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