Sometimes capricious child in transport or in a store, and started... Women and men of advanced age (for some reason they were generous with tips) start rattling off instructions. And how to respond to this "education"? On the one hand, you do not want to offend the harshness of people ripe old age, on the other - it is a pity the kid, and that is so bad, so more and strangers shall report or threaten "will cry, take you in Mom. " And the fact is, a good grandmother holds candy or cookies, sweets and the child in a large amount is impossible. How to be - or refuse to take to resolve?
Beyond the boundaries of reasonable
Why grandmother make comments? Because they grew up and had children themselves at a time when everything was supposedly common. And the children too. It was therefore decided to bring not only their own "spinogryzov", but also those children who live nearby, or simply fall into the field of view. At the time it was taken, it was considered a manifestation of indifference, and was the norm.
Times have changed, and grandmother - no. They do not explain what is personal boundaries that can not be crossed, even if those limits relate to the child. Therefore, mothers should be prepared to repel the attacks of educational, if you are with a crying baby came under a barrage of comments and threats.
chain hysteria
If the child hysterics - it's a chain reaction, and stop it quickly, alas, is impossible. It is even harmful, because the child is very important to let off steam - negative. Hysterics have to wait and negotiate with a child who has returned to normal.
If someone from outsiders will add fuel to the fire and to convince the roaring violently baby "Fu, how to cry ugly "or" a spoiled child now take away my mother, "calming process delayed.
Shocked crumb may subside for a moment, and then start sobbing with renewed vigor, if the mother is not supported, abandoned and allowed someone else to hurt her baby.
Use the conditional list of answers to the comments of other people against your baby.
- Thank you, we have everything under control.
- Please do not make comments to my child.
- Forgive me, my child yet afraid of strangers.
- He's just hungry / sleepy / hit / feels bad.
- He is very good baby, we just have a bit of a nuisance.
- Thank you for the advice, I'm fine.
- Thank you, we do not need help.
- Sorry, it is not accepted to discuss the child's behavior with strangers in my family.
You can teach your child to be responsible for yourself or... to answer for it. As experience shows, it has a calming effect on advisers.
- Baby, you can answer - "I'm not in the mood."
- Say - "mom me anybody and never give up."
- Say, "I - obedient."
- Say you're just tired.
- Let's say that we are fine.
Ex post facto
When you exit the vehicle or store, talk to the kid himself. Discuss what happened: "You made the remark, and you did not like. You know, and I did not like. They acted rude, we do not know that we had happened. But we are fine, we were not rude, but answered politely. We're done! ".
Support the child, the most important thing - to help him in this case draw the right lessons for the future and once again make sure that his mother and father at his side.
