You have given birth to feed and educate. And suddenly, to 3 years, you find that next to you is living individual who still takes his own unbending will? We'll have to take up the study of child psychology
So, after 3 years you suddenly discover that you live next to an individual, which is increasingly showing its own indomitable will. Just to love and be there no longer enough, we need new skills. What kind? About this is just our article.
Listening skills
Children after 3 say very much. Neuropsychologists call it "Wagon for thinking." It is important to make efforts for the development of the speech itself. Baby needs a lot of practice, and it is often it is autonomous (addressed to yourself), you are required only occasionally insert "uh huh" or "well be the same!". Learn how to restrain his inner censor and not correct, do not insert the valuable comments and observations.
Asking questions
The goal - to encourage the kid to reflect, to run his idea. Well, when questions remain open to a pipsqueak again and again pondered over the laws of the universe. It is better for a child than to give him an encyclopedic knowledge, which deprive him of this very thirst uncover, understand, understand.
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The ability to not take aggression personally
Now the baby can experience a genuine anger, and the object of his expressions are, as a rule, the closest people - mom, dad, brothers and sisters. Remember, no matter what the kid shouted in a fit of emotion, no matter how fists raised his hand - it was not his choice. Tantrum happens to him, she was stronger than him. So do not be offended, but to work systematically on the reduction of frustration in the child.
The ability to integrate their feelings
You always have to learn to mix their negative feelings that arise in relation to the child, with boundless love for him also. Just so you will not be able to turn into forever screaming angry parent.
Always be on the side of the child
At any, the most unpleasant situation, it is important to first get out of the incident, save your relationship, and then educate and explain when and who was wrong. This means that when the kid arguing with the grandmother, it is not necessary to hold a public speech on the topic: "Ay-ay-ay, how can you talk to grandmother, "and lead the child, cutting just irritation grandmother myself, and then, in a relaxed atmosphere, talk to baby. It's not because you encourage this behavior. Just emotsioniruyuschy pipsqueak still did not understand from your explanation, but feels that it is bad for you.
Pick up the child's environment
All those who surround the child, influence the development of his personality. Irritated the teacher in the kindergarten, rowdy son's best friend, a neighbor to drink - they are the objects of study and the characters for role-playing games. Of course, we can not create for his child a perfect world, but to control the social circle we can do. We can choose a babysitter, coach, or a suitable section of the kindergarten group. We can vary the time that the child spends with other adults and pronounce the daily examples that he sees in front of him.
Get to tales
Tale - it's magic. In the literal sense of the word. In the capable hands of a fairy tale becomes a parent counselor, guide, source of knowledge and a way to live the trauma.
With the help of fairy tales you can teach a child all over the world, to develop all that you want - and it will always be his delight, to give pleasure!
Study the psychology and physiology of children
Without the basic knowledge you will be hard to understand why the kid does so, not commercials. Why is he in hysterics, why he argues with everything, why does not want to clean up their toys. Everyone has heard about the children's self-centeredness, but few people realize that it is a consequence of the inability to put oneself in the other person. He can not realize that the other patients, if it is hit. That's impossible. He can still only copy your behavior and play what regrets hurt, but the inner consciousness of the child yet.
Make time for physical development
This is not just a sport. It is the integration of sensor systems. This improvement of secondary and tertiary fields analyzer systems of the cerebral cortex. This - the basis of development. The child will be more diverse movement, the more the brain will develop effectively. Which, of course, it affects the ability to learn, remember and recall information, make judgments, to see analogies, to read and write. And - a must! - it should be fun! Only if there is a fully development of pleasure!
Daily connect fine motor skills
Now so much for the development of mobility of fingers, that the eyes diverge. Lace, beads, balancers, puzzles, stickers, finger and gestural games, board games every kind of species, in addition to our usual clay, painting, applique, coloring books and notebooks with tasks - it not only pleasure the child, but also develops fine motor skills, logic, spatial and abstract thinking, and more more. At least 1 activity per day will give excellent results, believe me. This is certainly not an exhaustive list. You can write odes free play, develop collective games, to work competently with aggression.. Many things...
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