Nowadays there are a lot of honest information about parenting. But despite this motherhood in our time is shrouded in a kind of pink mist. After giving birth to a child, she was surprised to discover that it is actually not entirely true, as written about this in thematic books, forums and talked to mothers courses. This sometimes causes the newly-made mothers anxiety and doubt, "and a good mother, I, whether all with me in order."
Editorial Kolobok.ua I collect 5 most dangerous in our opinion myths about motherhood, which can poison the life of a young mother.
You will love your child at first sight. Books, movies, and rave posts newly mothers in social networks, assure that once a woman see this red, wrinkled, screaming man, her body must be filled with endorphins, and the heart love. And if she does not love the child at first glance, it's obvious that something is wrong: it does not have a maternal instinct and, therefore, she is a bad mother.
But in reality, not every woman is brimming with love at the sight of her baby. Everyone is different, and that's fine. Especially if the birth has not been physiological, and, for example, by caesarean section, and hormones have not started their work immediately, it takes time out to light up the maternal instinct. Do not feel guilty for what you did not like the kid at once. Breastfeeding, anxious, often take on the handles of his crumbs and soon you will feel the growing feeling - tender and sincere love for her child.
Your child will love you at once.Articles in magazines and thematic books claim that the most important thing for a child - it's mom. He learns from thousands of its smell, smile and touch. Indeed, there is an invisible bond between mother and child. Mama's baby transmitted mood, anxiety, fear, anxiety. But in the first month of life you will not feel his love. He still can not emote, smile, and even to distinguish faces of people who are suitable to his crib. Now he does not react to your lullabies and entreaties not to cry, and it seems as if you are completely gone from the house, and began to take care of someone else about it, he would not even notice.
But after a few weeks, when the baby will take a period of adjustment to a new life, he begins to become increasingly like the person to focus the mind, tail off at the sound of your voice, to calm down, when you take it to the hilt, smiling and active jerk feet when you come to it crib. And after a while you realize that you are a child the most important person in his life.
Now is the golden time. As soon as mom is discharged from the hospital on her squall congratulations. And everyone who calls on the phone, or writing in social networks, considers it his duty to say what a wonderful fairy-tale period occurred in her life, she is now no need to miss the moment and enjoy every minute spent with her child. Such talk sounds for newly-moms like news from a parallel universe. As can be enjoyed when the whole body is sore after childbirth, swollen hands after hospital catheters, nipples corroded to blood sucking toddler and back aches from the constant wear on his hands. And while the child requires constant care, it is not yet established regime and sleep did not work. Add to this the constant sense of anxiety for the child and the desire to get up to 10 times a night to check whether anything has happened to him. These need to enjoy?
And mommy again begins to suspect that there is something wrong: the others enjoy, and she does not leave. But very soon the body is restored, the regime will be adjusted and the time spent with the child, will bring you joy. All difficulties are forgotten and you will not believe, but a year later you'll smile nostalgically remembering this period.
Next will only get worse.Variation of the previous myth, but with a negative connotation. Typically it can be heard from the female friends who have children of 3-4 years. When they call, congratulate and enjoy the offer, because now the golden time, he only sleeps and eats, but when you grow up, then that difficulties and begin. And my mother, who has a newborn baby and already accounts difficult to hear such "consolation" phrase quite scary. After all, it is something just hopes that you need a little patience will be easier, but it turns out the opposite.
In fact, every age has its joys and difficulties. The kid grows up, will gradually make longer intervals between feedings, sleep longer, will understand that day, and when - the night, stop crying for any occasion, will contact and calmer razozhmet arms and legs that make dressing at first very difficult, and, in general, will be a little bit easier, "in management. "
Motherhood - it's the best in a woman's life. Society likes to stick to all the labels' wedding - the best day of your life "," motherhood - the best in every woman's life. " But when, instead of a career, go with friends for shopping or to go to sea, plyashesh with a crying baby, such phrases only cause bitter smile. And again you feel a sense of inferiority, because "it's the best in a woman's life," and you're not in a position to feel and appreciate.
Perhaps, the truth is the best, but it takes time to understand it and be glad that opted for motherhood. And then when the baby gets older, to call her friends, who have recently become mothers and breathy speaking into the phone: "It's a miracle! You are happy? Enjoy it while you can. After Motherhood - it's the best thing that can happen in a woman's life! "
And be sure to ask, 7 any stupid advice surrounding always strive to give the young mother.
