Every parent wants their child to raise a worthy man, and trying to do it to the best of his understanding of life. As a child, we often, resented my parents for their words and actions, because they do not understand that they ordinary people, not "all-knowing intelligent adults," and do not do it on purpose, and also, like all the rest, can err.
"I will never do that, or talk to your child whenyrastu "we thought resentfully parents. But years later, when we become mothers and fathers, unwittingly, sometimes using the same techniques: shout at children or tell them the same insulting phrasesWhich we have often heard from the adults in a child.
"You no one asks ..."
The phrase that makes it clear to the child that his opinion (and thus himself) is not interesting, does not have the weight and value. He can not himself in any way affect their lives and must adapt and go with the flow.
And when he becomes a teenager, the parents accuse him of indifference and infantilism, and that any of their question, he shrugs his shoulders and says: "I do not care."
"Your nothing here ..."
The phrase, which deprives the child of any property rights, and therefore the right to vote, because even at his beloved teddy bear earned parents, and therefore a favorite toy can at any time pick up and give to someone another.
Of course, the child needs to know that you need to earn money and spend wisely, but to use as leverage in education the fact that the child does not yet have the possibility to provide for themselves, it is at least unfair and cruel.
"Here comes my father ..."
Unfortunately, in our country fathers from generation to generation are suspended mothers and grandmothers under various pretexts on child rearing ( "He still does not understand anything in the education of children, I will do better," or "why his load, he gets tired at work") or wash its hands (not "men's business"), turning into a sort of a figure in the distance, which scared the children in the case of disobedience.
Then you should not be surprised that children with fathers do not add up normal relations. How can properly interact with the person who is constantly bullied, which since childhood to expect some troubles and punishments?
"All children as children, and you ..."
All children are different, each has its own strengths and weaknesses. If you want your child to grow into a confident adult, we should not compare it with others. Quite a shame to hear that all the other children, even like your own parents far more than you.
Similar phrases not only offensive, they nurture the child a bunch complexes, which only increases with age, like a snowball.
"We do not have anything to you ..."
Of course they should. Even if you have decided to get a kitten, you need to provide him with a roof over their head, food and care since claimed responsibility for a living creature. Therefore, in addition to the basic things your child should get your attention, love, a sense of security in the world and at least ten cuddle a day. And you have to explain to the kid that he has certain obligations to others, to educate and instill a sense of respect, tolerance and kindness towards all living things.
Only with this approach your kid can grow up happy and confident person. But this is what you want, is not it?
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