A hot-tempered, prone to tantrums, the child's temperament - a real test for mom and dad. To tame this "Shrew" must also be able to. Once at the airport I witnessed unpleasant scenes: in the waiting room in front of hundreds of spectators four year old boy gave a resounding hysterical parents.
He ran between suitcases and passengers with heart-rending cries, which were amplified acoustics closed tubular airport building, stunning all around and not giving a chance to his parents, even soothe. Parents, he just did not see or hear, and all their attempts to get closer to the screaming daze and calm him ended in failure. Dad was distraught mother helplessly throw up your hands, and we all - waiting for their flights - dreamed that this wild op finally stopped.
Probably many of us have witnessed similar scenes, with irritation and accusations uneducated parents thought about the children who are guilty of "public hysterics." And what if the growing short-tempered child, and cope with his temperament is sometimes difficult, and in some cases even impossible?
Temperament or spoiled?
I have to say, hope that the hot-tempered baby "grow" and become calm, it is not necessary. Not outgrow. Violent and emotional character (if this character, not spoiled) to remain.
The main difference from the spoiled temper that spoiled children "hysteria" to obtain a desired or to insist on his own, and a child's temper evident in stressful emergency situation: when a child is afraid of something, eg. Kid Airport terribly afraid to fly, and through the screams and the roar barely could be heard, "Dad, let's not fly."
How to help the little rebel?
In order to help temperamental child learn to restrain your uncontrollable temper tantrums and control, flashes of anger, anger, outbursts of negative emotions parents need to understand and learn a few simple truths and supplement special education techniques.
Parents are important to understand that:
♥ the child is not sick, he was normal and he was all right. This means that he has no deviations, he does not hate the whole world, and their parents did not instill evil spirit in him. Just inside him a keen indicator of stress and highly developed sense of justice;
♥emotional outbursts are very afraid of the child, he can not control them, and from this it is very difficult, it It is experiencing severe feelings of guilt and may even inflict self-punishment in physical harm, for example, beat yourself up;
♥"Trigger" tantrums are a child fears a protest against coercion, rebellion against injustice (from the point of view of a child);
♥ can not ride hysterical manifestations, should be sent to a splash of aggression and adequately react to it.
Top 3 of the rules of education irascible kid
Rule one. Examine the child's fears. If you are ahead of the projected stressful situation for the baby, for example, a trip to the doctor, think of ways to neutralize it. Talk about it, watch films or read books, draw situation and "have lived" with her child. Come up and take with them "distracting, soothing" tricks: for example, a new toy, a gadget with your favorite cartoon, favorite treat.
Second Rule. Teach, not punish. Clearly draw the boundaries of what is permitted and do not allow them to cross. Do not reduce their demands, to adequately react to the child's behavior, do not yell at him, but do not show their weakness. Patiently and persistently explain the rules of conduct, saying firmly, supporting his words with gestures. The most important thing - to convince the child that he will be able to learn to deal with his temper. The task of parents - each "flash" to control and use to teach a child to cope with it, despite the fact that it takes a lot of effort and energy.
Third Rule. Do not ignore the tantrum and do not leave the baby alone with his aggression. Baby it is important to feel that his parents love and accept any and be sure to help cope with anger. A common mistake parents - requirement "sit still" or "shut your mouth". With a child you need to talk, to engage in dialogue, learn to express their emotions and talk about their feelings. By learning to do this, the child will learn to cope with their ebbs aggression.
Methods of psychological relaxation for the child
In order to throw out the accumulated aggression and relieve emotional stress harmless way psychologists recommend several techniques. And parents need only to choose the most suitable for your baby's temperamental.
These techniques can be used in peak moments of aggression for the switch, and in times of peace to accumulated voltage blew up hysteria.
Start with "voynushki." For example, the cushion battle is quite capable of turning hysteria into the game with a battle cry, "Let's fight, war has been declared!". Such a course is able to switch a tantrum in a fun match track and hitting a pillow will help to remove the aggression and anger. This category refers punching bag, pounding on which you can teach a child to remove the rage. Or use the help in the kitchen to prepare meatballs: baste meat mallet for older children - excellent "stressosnimatel" under my mother's supervision.
Another great method - draw a face on paper and give the baby to tear the paper.Draw a few such leaves, keep them on hand, and show an example of how to deal with them.
You can pop the balloons (If you have time to fool them) with the words "burst with rage!" call names or words funny.
In a fit of aggression shout child "You're green parrot!" or "You're blue carrot!", these words it can switch. In peacetime, you can play a funny nickname, throwing the ball to each other. This technique smoothes aggression. And when the first wave of aggression subsides, it is necessary to embrace the child and tell him that you understand how difficult it is to him. But we must be able to stop, because the world is not all there is because he wants to.
Sports, active games on the air, cycling, swimming, frisbee, badminton is the best suited for such an emotionally active children. This motor activity perfectly removes accumulated rage and in an amicable way exhausts the child, leaving no chance to tantrums and aggression.
We wish you to bring up their favorite kids in love and joy - they are the most beautiful thing that can happen to us in this life!
