Temptations around children today - a lot, and to pay for everything, so the love of money wakes up in our chadah since childhood. After all, we are constantly told the children about how everything is expensive and difficult as you earn on toys, mugs and other fun.
In the course of this "financial" education, we run the risk to raise a child, addicted to money, we know 6 effective ways to do this, for sure. We hope you catch the irony from the first lines.
Method one. Pay child for any effort. So that the offspring grew convinced that the money - it is the measure of all, bring him to believe that it is possible to estimate the money efforts. I learned the letter "M" - here's a bun and lollipop, received the "top ten" in school - keep ten hryvnia, exam Karate - gets its fee, put in the children - please, promised money for a hamburger and a movie with popcorn. The child gets used to remuneration for his every sneeze, and other ways to encourage (praise, for example), other than financial, it is not encouraging.
SECOND METHOD. Measure the success of external indicators. Teach a child to this kind of "skill" can even kindergarten, comparing his achievements with others: "Look, Danya has I learned to read, and you're still in syllables barely pull, oh you-s-s... "or" In the matinee Sonia already told 5 verses, and you only two. So, Sonia smarter than you?! ". And anything that Sonia - the daughter of educators, the main thing - to convince his son that life - it is an eternal race and competition.
Students can be "trolling" for evaluation: "You say, Stas received a" top ten "of the test, and you only" eight "? Stas cheated, and you teach the whole evening this topic? So what? You must be able to get out - that Stas can, and you do not. You are honest, and Stas will be ten per semester. " It does not matter that Stas snapper and a liar, most importantly, that he was able to adapt and succeed 100%, is not that few.
The third way. In conversations about familiar compare their wealth. Reinforce to the child that people need to judge the quantity and quality of real estate, cars, watches, gadgets, technology and travel for a year, and other attributes of wealth.
Already a teenager child on a one-two would understand that the criteria for assessment of human - the ones that immediately catch the eye. Expensive gadgets, cool car, apartment, branded clothing and, of course, the level of income. And then, what he is - does not matter.
METHOD FOUR. Create a child's feeling of lack of
To do this, do not let the child of pocket money. He deserved them? What joy - if he still did not earn. And the fact that on the tour with the factory class Christmas toys he could not buy a single souvenir toy, so good - why spend money on nonsense, and the toy could break up the road. And the money is now not easily earned, and who will pay for the karate section - the top of a Christmas tree or home dad? Money is not for pampering: Repeat these words as a mantra child. Let it formed a sense of deprivation, guilt about their desires and aspirations, "I grew up here, and then ...".
FIFTH METHOD. As often as possible, and describes in detail how your family is poorer than others. As an example, of course, the family will suit the child's best friends. Narrating, poisonous necessarily grins and declares how the world is unfair. examples, poisonous smile and strongly emphasize that the world is unfair.
Ruefully noted, in what car rides mother Lucky Pasha, and how steep the phone goes his dad: "Lucky people. We work hard, work hard, barely missing... "And the fact that my mother Pasha - manager and demanded to midnight in the office, and my dad business team and receives the third highest - does not count. The key point - to convey to his son destructive cocktail of opinion: some lucky money gets easy, it manna from heaven falls, but not us. And nothing can be done, the money will not have ever though we constantly think about them.
SIXTH METHOD. Replace money the care and attention
No time to talk with a child? Give money, empty go to the movies with friends - they have more than that. Shouted at the child, in vain hurt - why apologize, you're an adult, you can and... atone by paying for the costs. No power after a hard working day to listen, how was his day? It was last month on a business trip? Give gifts to children - and again in the office, for work, for projects ...
Let them know how parents 'plow' to bring their children in its beak. And soon, the offspring will cease to miss you and will take you a year-round "Santa Claus", which is required to bring gifts. As a result - shopogolizm, depression and other "side effects" it is impossible to build a close relationship with their parents and to feel an emotional connection, security, and love.
We advise you to find out, what type of intelligence in your child's leadTo help him learn and find the lesson of your dreams.
