Autumn is coming and many of the kids for the first time crossed the threshold of the kindergarten. Moms and dads today are trying to adjust to the child's first steps, explain what kindergarten - it is fun and not scary, tell us how it should behave in the team. However, sometimes parents, unwittingly, achieve the opposite effect.
We bring you the phrases that (according to psychologists) only harm the quick and painless adaptation. So, before you - 8 phrases, which are forbidden to tell the child before going to kindergarten.
"Learn to eat on their own, in kindergarten you will not feed anybody!" The phrase, which forms the negative attitude of the child to kindergarten. The kid thinks it's a terrible place, where nobody will help him, and he will be left to itself.
Better to say, "You have such a great and can eat by himself. I like to see how you manage with a spoon. "
"Come Share the toy, go to the garden will have to share, there are all toy general."Another negative attitude, which also does not stimulate to the bounty. When a child first comes into the garden, it will be firmly pressed to his favorite hare, that he suddenly became common.
It is better to tell a child like this: "Look, the boy wants to play around with your machine, it is to play and give." So you retain ownership of the child, because you too unpleasant it would be to someone disposed of your things.
"Do not cry, and I will give you in kindergarten."Kindergarten as a punishment, the child forms the view that this is a very bad place to give naughty children, and where it will hurt.
"Calm down immediately, otherwise I will cause thee to kindergarten and leave there." This setting is also worse than the previous. When the child goes to kindergarten, all the time he will be afraid, that he was not to come and leave here forever.
"There's no big deal, do not worry, the teacher and the children will not hurt you." Even if the child is up to this point does not worry about the garden, it will now begin. Once his mother comforts, so you need to be afraid that in the garden there is terrible and it will hurt.
"I'll stay with you in a group."Do not promise your child something that is not really going to do. Deceiving the child, we are pushing him to distrust, and when he grows up - to lie. Therefore, if you promise to stay, do not leave until the child did not agree to let you go.
By the way, if you really have the opportunity to stay with the child during the first week in the garden is a very cool, because help the child easier and smoothly adapt to the new place.
"If you go into the garden, I'll buy you ..." So, you educate a manipulator, which will solicit the purchase of that ate, went into the garden, put away toys, went to sleep, etc.
"Do not Cry! Look, the other kids do not cry. "Never compare the child with other children. Feelings of guilt and worthlessness - not the best assistants in life.
Leave your child the right to negative emotions, to show understanding and say, "I understand that you're sad. I am also sad to leave you, but soon I will come and we will go to the playground. "
And finally, do not allow yourself to negative statements and intonations in relation to kindergarten, teacher and other staff in the presence of a child.
Kid unconditionally believe everything you say, and is an idea about the world with your help. Therefore, if you say or hint that the teachers are bad, the child will not be able to feel in a kindergarten in the security. Be wise and do it!
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