Remember your own maturation. Certainly, when faced with a lack of understanding on the part of the parents, you think, "Oh, with my children, I will not allow this, I have some now understand exactly how to avoid such mistakes." What kind of education we can prevent errors, without noticing?
OWNER - is not greedy
At a certain stage, children are simply not able to share anything. It's part of the baby - and a point, and if the mother out of a desire to demonstrate how well mannered and polite, its crumb, give cherished shovel another chubby little boy, you could not help show your child that his interest for her "so-so importance. " Wear two or three blades, and do not forget that someone else's child must solve the problem of his mother.
Do not ask a child to share everything else, and because he can without hesitation in the future (for so it is necessary to - so my mother said) give not only a penny shoulder blade, but an expensive toy - the wheel, watches, etc.
Overprotective AS disservice
And that word is not a baby, and the parents thought. And suddenly on the run... a sudden fall from the tree fall down... All of a sudden quarrel with a friend... Suddenly, something not say in the kindergarten or school... Suddenly fall in love not in order / not in the... Because of this, millions of "what if" we limit the child from normal maturation, which is error-free and cones can not be.
Otherwise, if you try elsewhere "lay straw", the child will still grow, but easy to make mistakes childhood as adults and receive some serious lessons oh... It's like chicken pox. As a child passes a week almost imperceptibly, as if overtaken by an adult, it is carried with great difficulty.
Come on, I WILL DO
We have so much to do, we are in such a hurry, and then the kid climbs with his help or can not tie shoelaces (fasten buttons, doreshat example, etc.). Familiar? And what do we do? Right? We are tying daze bows on shoes, we solve the problem for him, because it's easier and faster than waiting for slowpoke.
Yes, here we win a couple of minutes, but... laying in the child the belief that if there is no sense of strain or waiting for an explanation - for you do it yourself. And if you "have screwed" - come and fix. Do you think such a future "brought up" the helplessness of the child would be easy?
FRIENDSHIP WON
And how could it be otherwise, because kids play upset, offended... Do you think that children do not understand, who is the first, and who lost, and all are pleased that their achievement "reduced one size fits all"?
Important to teach a child to win and to lose a child, or "eternal firstborn", which was always the first / best for parents it wounds the objective reality and disappointment already in kindergarten or school, if the child is suddenly not the first and not even second.
undeservedly AWARDS
We are used to "pay" with your child for something that does not give him the time or cause to do something important, but not very nice (to go to the doctor, do the job and help around the house, walking their pet and etc.). Or when one deserves a promotion, and the second, who did not want to help, capricious, we bestow for the company - not to take offense. And in the end?
A child does not grow up and not ready to accept the reality that many things in life must be earned, not just receive a gift.
PUNISHMENT FOR PREVENTION
The downside of rigor when we use punishment too often or unreasonably severely punish child - allegedly to avoid any problems with nesluhom in the future. If the child is admitted to the crime, it is possible to evaluate his behavior and limit the cancellation of the promotion.
Otherwise, you will break the self-esteem of the child, which is the salvation from the punishment will lie to you about trifles. And in the future - and all others (friends, colleagues, loved ones).
LESSONS WITHOUT EXAMPLES
You invoke the didactic tone of the child not to lie, not to be a quitter, do not break the rules, do not hurt yourself, and yourself... Sami slept, talking on the phone that "stuck in traffic", together with the child runs across the road to the "red", flavored mayonnaise meal, swearing detail... Our children are very careful in the first place "scan" are exactly the things that we would like to leave unnoticed for them. But it is a utopia.
P.S. Do not forget to tell your child how to do as a child made mistakes. Children perceive us as parents as gods, who know everything, know how, but very soon they will become more mature and realize that we, too, are not without sin. And if we tell ourselves, as "chudili" as a child, of course, surprised his offspring, but at the same time - will become closer to them and help you make the right conclusions quickly. Unless, of course... you do it yourself.
