How to minimize conflicts with the child: the top 5 methods

How much can you eat sweets, if it is time to shut down a computerIf absent from unloved lesson allowed and still many issues that cause disputes and conflicts of parents with children, make it impossible to completely avoid unpleasant situations. And, at some point, any mom can feel the nervous hysterical with dictatorial tendencies, the sufferer that no one is listening. How to learn to prohibit, to avoid such extremes?

Almost every psychologist advises gently but firmly explain to the child about the various prohibitions. For example, it is not necessary to scream and out of balance, explaining to the child that should be turned off to make a cartoon and lessons. But in most cases the theory is fundamentally at odds with the practice and after a half-hour "quiet" persuasion, when the child tirelessly repeats: "Well, for another 5 minutes," my mother usually returns to personal methods, as long dispute to anything good will not results.

5 suggest to use proven methods that can afford to minimize conflicts.

wait a moment

Sometimes it really should just wait for the moment when the child himself wants to learn how to tie shoelaces, to refer clothes to the laundry, take a shower daily, comb, etc. We should not compare him with anyone, especially with yourself a. Even accustom a child to potty is a matter of time. And, despite all of your efforts and nerves, pipsqueak still learn to be emptied into it, but perhaps a little later than you would like.

"Zeroing" experience

Many psychologists recommend to travel with children in places where there is no internet, tablets and TVs. For example, younger children, again return to their natural hobbies, such as painting, sculpture, reading books with their parents. Teens also will be able to communicate more with parents, especially if the relationship has long been lost, and they are immersed in a life peer.

This is a very effective way, because thanks to this manipulation, "according to" weaken, the authority of Adults rises and it is easier to put borders and easier for children to accept restrictions that do not bring the situation to conflicts.

Do not lie to children, even small things

Children are constantly asked to buy something on the little things and the parents usually respond with the phrase: "I now have no money." In such cases it is better to tell your child where you really need at the moment to spend the money, for example, to pay for utilities. At the same time offer an alternative to the child - to spend his pocket money or not sprayed on trifles, and to collect a little more and buy what he really wanted, such as a scooter.

So you kill two birds with one stone - the child calms down, because you are not habitually waved him off with the phrase: "No, because there is no" and thus also given the right to choose.

Remove items away temptation

It is difficult to find a crumb, not a loving sweetness in the form of cakes, pastries and chocolates. Therefore, the infinite, "Well, can another candy" usually infuriating either parent and after endless negotiations, as well as disputes, persuasion, or parent gives in and gives the next "one" piece of candy, or a brewing conflict situation.

In order not to fall into such a day "skirmish", do not saturate the apartment various temptations, so you will save your nerves and child.

Follow homework together

Very often you can find a family where growing up a child is categorically refuses to help parents. There is some blame the parents, because usually all the housework easier for them to fulfill themselves or just feel sorry for the child to ask, for example, help to wash the floors, while it is still small. And when the child grows up, he develops the notion that household chores - this is just some kind of punishment and, in general, is the inheritance of adults Here conflicts begin again.

The only thing that works in this situation - it is a personal example and familiarizing the child to work together, especially if all presented in an entertaining way.