If you're a mom, you will understand us. Mama - is a superman and she abruptly Spiderman, Batman and Terminator combined. More precisely, every mom has all these super-incarnation, that it shows on a daily basis.
Modern Mom - it's just a mom who bears, bear and raise a child, and another colleague, employee, boss or subordinate, parent in kindergarten or school, the small patient mom in the clinic, and the chef in the kitchen, a tutor for their own offspring, and Entertainer for children weekends. And his wife - with all the ensuing diversity of duties.
How not to lose yourself in this heap status and feel happy? Editorial Kolobok.ua I found 9 Commandments of happy moms.
DO NOT ATTEMPT TO BE PERFECT MOTHER
No perfect mothers. They do not exist, as well as vegetarian sharks. And the child does not hurt to realize that it brings not knowing the robot and not celluloid Barbie, and the usual normal person who feels and feels glad and sad. And there's no tragedy if the child will know that mom can not cook lasagne, afraid of heights, do not like to knit and do not know why not venomous boa and white bunny in the winter.
Realizing that his mother - a normal living person, a child, and he allows himself to behave naturally, appreciate their wishes and do not blame yourself for natural fears or errors.
DO YOURSELF OF MARTYRS
Do not try to carry out all of its incarnation as "excellent". Down with perfectionism and bruises under his eyes. Hail, common selfishness and hedonism (the love of pleasure). Sometimes it is important to disconnect from the routine and change the picture in favor of his mood.
Do not forget your positive your family needs, such as oxygen, and a sour mood and strife going wild during a wild fatigue is very toxic to all. Do not be afraid to take a break from the children, her husband and... meet with them. Behave in a movie theater, in a beauty salon, on a visit to her friend.
This mother does not dissolve in the other, and not to faint norovyaschie, the 7th concocting a dish for dinner, worth its weight in gold. Why, such a mother - a real diamond.
Do not blame yourself
It should become a mother, as a woman, "grows" internal and Darth Vader begins to brand yourself a shame for the slightest flaw in the education of offspring. Ay-ay-ay, I only breastfed for six months... Again, not bought baby videos... And still not allowed to watch the tenth cartoon of the day... I not learned so far to say "p" to play chess, salsa dancing and reading French…This indictment flow if the hose literally knocked down, exhausts morally and totally motivated.
ENJOY trifle
Yes, life is not as perfect as we would like. Happiness catches for only a moment, but it is surrounded by a dense ring of the financial crisis in the country, endless deadlines on work, teacher observations offspring diary, and here's a cake not turned out... In short, the reasons for the disorder always a lot.
And only at home, with his family, you can forget about troubles, because you are loved. Even if the cake burnt. And love, because you showed how beautiful trees in the snow, the smell of hot asphalt after a summer rain, as the clouds in the sky suddenly turn into elephants or sailboats. From such trifles as of stroke, consists your portrait, which will remain in your child's heart.
LAUGH OFTEN
You know, in the most difficult moments for the mother, we use two saving truths: 1) the child is always right; 2) need to look at all with humor. Otherwise, you may lose the common sense and turn into Bok.
Remember, as the hero of the genius of the film "That Munchhausen": "A smart person - this is not a sign of intelligence, gentlemen. All nonsense on the ground are made with this expression. Smile, gentlemen. Smile! "
Yes, often joking to communicate with the child, funny quote phrases from movies and cartoons, invent with your child anecdotes. And how you like the idea, "the day in reverse" when parents are changing roles with their children? Your inner child will not "zabronzovet" and see the world in all its colors.
Dined FAMILY
When we see each other after work or school? That's right, over dinner. And it is a wonderful time when we get a little closer to each other. At the table, going the whole family - we share experiences, receive support, we hear words of praise. Simply put - we relax and recharge the soul of mutual love.
SPEND MONEY FOR YOURSELF
Yes, let's call a spade a spade. It's true, my mother rarely allows himself small pleasures, his head throbs constantly thought that the money that she is going to spend on yourself, you can buy three kilograms of cheese, to pay for the music school junior or new running shoes senior.
Even if your family budget is tight, be sure to let yourself small pleasures. Manicure, pedicure, beautiful styling, stylish handbag. It masthev. With such gifts, even a difficult parent involvement takes a special meaning. When you love yourself, the resource appears to truly love others.
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Yes, we know that it is almost impossible. The feeding, the colic, the verses by heart, the DPA and the External testing, the bride and groom... But in between these cases do not miss the opportunity to take a nap. Some mothers of our editorial staff play with the children in the game: Mama - Lenin, and children - guards. The joke, of course. But seriously, do not lose yourself, your health, beauty, mood - the most important family capital.
Stay true to yourself
Your life has changed with the advent of children once and for all. And you've changed - you become better, more organized, smarter, kinder and far-sighted. And yet - in my heart you were the very young and cheerful girl who smiled at her reflection in the mirror. So do not drive themselves into a corner duties - sometimes return to that same girl in the mirror.
Enabling you to relax, soak longer with a book or buy a pizza for dinner, if you are tired in the evening and do not have time to cook first, second and compote. Throw away the desire to try on a suit of the victim and the family to give up the feelings of many mothers catchphrase: "For your sake, I had to deprive myself of everything!"
And if suddenly the phrase sat on the tip of the tongue, bite it, count to 10, take three deep breaths, look at your family - so different, favorite, and say, "How I love you all!"
P.S. We know that you know, but remember: us to be happy need 8 hugs a day.Bust is encouraged!
