The first part of the material "Educating a child under the laws of the development cycle: from 0 to 7 years," read here.
The second cycle of 7-14 years. Time of birth of the person, "I". Conventionally, this major life-cycle can be called "internship" or "good student." The objective of this stage - to save individual experience and develop willpower. A key word in this series, "individualism".
Protective maternal cocoon expanded and the key role of the mother gradually turns to his father. The child begins to separate themselves from the outside world and to think logically. Now he speaks of himself in the first person, and instead of the usual questions you often will hear the arguments and objections. The child's mind begins to actively work on in order to fit into the surrounding material world and test its strength.
From 7 to 14 years old child is an ongoing active dialogue with the outside world. Peace be upon him responsible language books, television, internet, school, family, peers. As a result of this dialogue is formed by an internal system of norms and rules of interaction with others, which will remain with a person for life. The task of parents at this stage - to prepare qualitative information for the acquisition of knowledge and the rules of the world and society. Selection of books and movies with real life situations and instructive, training and development activities, study groups, help in choosing a hobby, dosing time on the Internet and their own example - is the foundation for all social behavior in your child's future life.
This is the age of idols, role models and mentors. Do not miss it! Try to gently and unobtrusively child form a circle of communication. In any case, do not insulate him from his peers.
Magical time when your power to lay the correct value orientations for the future life: how to evaluate situation, to find a way to make decisions, to make choices, to withstand the opinion of the crowd, protected and be generous. The key to success - a deep mutual trust: someone who knows more - the authority, but the one who knows less - listen to it and follow the advice. In your arsenal - the accumulated wisdom of mankind: fairy tales, parables, literature, cinema, family history, personal example. Do not resort to exemplary punishment or rewards, your model will take the child with them into adulthood.
Interests and activities of the child at this age are unstable and change frequently. Many children begin to engage in something that will soon lose interest and switch, addicted to something else. It does not speak of impermanence as a feature of the child's character. Search and try - a normal process in this age cycle. And often the children who had the opportunity to choose and express themselves in different classes, find a favorite hobby that pleases and stays with them for years to come. And sometimes it becomes a profession, a matter of life.
Also in the "seven-year" laid model of human interaction with the material values and attitudes about money. Opens up a world of material things is the desire to own something of their own. For example, to collect. For parents - this is the time when you need to learn to deal with things and money. Give your child your life wisdom and remember kids do not like you tell them as well as you do. Thrift, punctuality, sense of proportion, a reasonable disposal of property and finances - these and many other beneficial qualities associated with property and money, imparted during the second seven-year cycle.
In the language of socionics, psycho-informational structure in the child is hard work on filling the superblock individual life activity: at the same time interact with 4 functions of the psyche: the individual programs, individual instruments, the individual experience and individual norm.
Surprisingly, the age when the opinion of peers is everything, when a person is experiencing a tangible estimated pressure the crowd, the child is still an individualist: it interacts with the environment through the prism of their personal desires and needs. He feels like the center of the world, which is created to meet their needs - about 14 years. This feeling inspires, gives neither the incomparable feeling of the joy of life: waking up the body's main energy. If the lockup, "stuck" in the previous step is not, and the development is "on schedule", nasal wise nature, the child becomes physically active and intellectually curious.
And here for the responsible parent it's time to play its most important violin in education. Meeting the growing emotional and intellectual hunger of the child entirely in the hands of parents. Everything that you put into a child of this age, will remain with him forever.
In contrast to the previous one, in this cycle of the task of parents - actively develop "weak" features the child's mind, train it on the situations in which it is poorly focused. Socionic advice for the harmonious development of the child based on his understanding of psycho. If your family grows logic, you definitely should be done with it ethical training. Teach him to understand the rich emotional world and the language of the people. The logic is always more difficult to rest. Main knowledge that a child should learn logic - all people are different, and that's fine. Everyone has the right to identity, including him. Accept and understand the ethical diversity of people can be learned, and this knowledge will be the basis for proper communication model in the future.
If your family grows ethics, Training should be logical. Develop logic by all available means, of course, it helps school - sciences fill the structural logic of your child. However, for effective development of the logical components of personality that is not enough. Logic puzzles, read the analysis, formulation of conclusions, building structures, studying maps, ordering things in the house, explanation of regularities, causal relationships - all these trains and extends the logic of a child with ethics, raising the degree of harmonization personality.
If your family child sensorik, Then at the age of 7-14 years, your task - to work out the most intuitive part of his personality. By developing the fantasy and imagination of sensation, you render an invaluable service to your child - you learn to connect the world of material things to the world of ideas. At the junction of these worlds are born masterpieces and discoveries. So, intuition child can awaken the fantasy genre books, fairy tales of miracles, stories of discovery. Learn to feel time and make friends with him, tell us about what "on time" - this is a great word, and it is very often preceded by the word "happiness" and "success".
If you child intuit, Then aged 7-14 years need an active work with him on the sensor technology. Teach your body to feel and understand the language, take care of your health, eat right, observe cleanliness and hygiene, look after your body, clothing and location, neat look. Of course, these skills should be taught to all children, but Intuit is given particularly hard, and training in these skills need more thrust. In addition, intuitov need to learn to feel their territory and to be able to defend themselves. They usually prefer to get away from the conflict and not to assert their rights.
Similarly, Introverted children need to learn to overcome the constraints and fear of communicating with others. In this age of timidity and shyness perfectly corrected by various methods, such as the stage and acting, elocution lessons.
And here Extroverts-children necessary to teach self-control skills in communication: respect for the other person and the ability to listen without interrupting, pay attention to the inadmissibility of the unnecessary obsessions, excessive talkativeness.
And another important point: 7-14 years old - the right age to lay the foundation of habits to plan and use time effectively. Children rationals easier to master the skills of sequential distribution of tasks in time. But to learn to perform multiple tasks in parallel, without compromising the quality, they are more complicated. In today's world of multi-tasking - one of the most important components of success. Training of this skill will pay off handsomely in the future for your child.
on Irrational-childrenMultitasking - their innate property. But bring it started to end, adhere to regulations, the right to distribute the effort in time, plan and stick to the plan - for many of them the most important task. Parents can teach a child to organize the chaos of events and actions, in which he lives. Allocate main tasks, prioritize, be consistent and bring the follow through - the necessary skills to educability irrational personality types.
Agree, the range of tasks described for parents is very wide, and the way education is long and difficult. Here is the secret: the more you use the cyclicality of knowledge in child development and follow these tips, the better your child and your whole family will survive the acute crisis of adolescence. For 14 years with proper and uniform development of the psyche of the child completes the construction of the individual unit life and training on it: the child fully learns the individual behavior and "mature" for a meeting with society.
And for parents it comes time to change roles again. Because teachers parents time to become a parent, a friend.
To be continued
