In Japan, it's different. Especially in the Japanese and the system of education of children. It's called "ikudzi" and is a whole philosophy aimed at education and training new generations.
Ikudzi difficult to comprehend, but it's all about love - parents to their children. Especially the mother to the child. When a child announces the world about your appearance on the first cry, the doctor gently cut the umbilical cord. It will put a little piece of a box with gilt lettering - the name of the mother and the baby's date of birth. Umbilical cord - is now a symbol of a strong and unbreakable connection mother and her child. Start big beautiful way it should!
Mom to pamper =
Mother in Japan called "amae": this word translating complex, but it is derived from the verb "amaeru" means "to spoil", "grooming".
It emphasizes the meaning of the name and mission of most mothers: If a woman decides to motherhood, she is likely to get into this cavity. Not welcome to go to work until the child is 3 years. By Japanese standards, is not encouraged to leave the baby in the care of grandparents.
The child-god: from birth to 5 years
A child between the ages of 0-5 years old - the most important term of my mother's life, it directed all the attention, love and care.
• On the little "gods" do not raise their voices, they were not abused (well, can barely account for the prank) and they almost did not prohibit.
• Mom can only warn the kid from the apparent dangers of speaking with him on an equal footing, good intonation and without the use of physical force.
• If you happen to any unpleasant situation, such as a fall or injury, it always takes the blame and be sure to ask for the child's forgiveness.
• On the streets you rarely see tear-stained child, breaking into hysterics, because my mother simply never bring the case to such an outcome of events.
• If a child is upset by their behavior, it is in any case will not criticize him in the presence of strangers.
• The child and his mother, as a whole, are constantly together. In Japan, even invented garments with special departments with zippers, so that the child could be my mother always at heart.
Curious!It is considered absolutely normal, if a child's day painted by the minute. Younger children can simultaneously attend English lessons mental mathematics, Dancing, drawing and singing. With this system, to 4 years in almost all the Japanese children are able to play at least one musical instrument and know the basics of grammar and mathematics.
The child-slave, from 5 to 15 years
At the age of 5 to 15 years, all the concessions in educating end: starting age of growing up and learning. Now the young "chrysanthemum life" parents set specific tasks, voicing rules fairly stringent restrictions - and only try, to disobey! No, slippers by the pope - it's not about the Japanese. Here are focused on consciousness and a sense of shame.
From 5 years old children are taught to be part of the group. Therefore, the public punishment: "If you behave like this, will laugh at you."
teachers give birth to the child a special notebook, which is celebrated by all attendance, as well as any duty and cleaning, which he fulfilled.
Follow the "laws of the pack" also helps the attachment to the mother. After all, if violate collective norms amae very upset. It's a shame not on his own, but on its behalf.
Curious! Already with 6 years old child should get to the venue of the training itself. The maximum that can afford the mom - to go with him to the threshold of the house.
Equal: from 15 to 18
In 15 years, the child becomes as an equal person in the society, as well as his parents. It is believed that the young "equal" already has experience and wealth of knowledge.
• Parents do not indicate the child's fault, but rather try to help him advice.
• To educate such a child is too late, parents are just reaping the benefits of their education.
Curious! In Japan, not accepted publicly praise their children - even adults and have achieved success. Japanese mother in conversation with other amae likely affectionately say "my stupid child," politely hinting that all children are equally intelligent and talented.
What should learn from the Japanese?
• If you will "train" and humiliate a child under 5 years old, he has lost all interest in the development of life. No need to suppress his mind and intellect, otherwise it will be "easy prey" or the victim of the evil in the hands of society.
• If you will be excessive care to the child of 5 to 15 years, it will grow weak, insecure and incapable of thinking independently.
• If the performance of 15 years you will not communicate with the child on an equal footing, it will lead to the distance and alienation from his family.
