The first two pieces of material "Educating a child under the laws of the development cycle: from 0 to 7 years" and "Educating a child under the laws of the development cycle: from 7 to 14 years" read here.
The third cycle of 14-21 years. Conditional stage name - "information storage". Horizons expand for the third time, and society fills teenage life. Now the family - just a part of the huge information space, and it does not survive and not be held without the information intelligence. The problem of identity in the third seven-year cycle - to generate information and intelligence to pass the path of personal and professional self-determination. On a subconscious level, the teenager feels it, and the entire life of the organism is directed to the accumulation of information and the creation of support - your own understanding of the world.
The main thing is that the parents need to understand at this stage of education - the formation and development of intelligence and independent thinking teenager does not happen by itself. The task of parents - to create conditions that would encourage the young man to self-development and the observance of the norms and rules of social life.
For 14 years the individual genetic program is fully implemented, individual mental block is filled, and the teenager able to "hear" the society and to ask critical questions of life: what profession to choose what his life goals, plans and preferences. Come first "adult" thinking about the future, the first question - who I am and what I want in this world. In 14 years, it begins the process of personal and professional self-determination.
transition crisis second and third seven years of sharpness comparable with birth. The latest medical research US neuroscientists have identified a significant increase in the activity of nerve impulses in the cerebral cortex teenagers, that considerably complicates (approximately 20%) perceived information adequate processing and reduces control their own behavior in society. Here lie the causes of fear, aggression, irritability, rudeness. This age riot which rages in the third cycle of seven and subsides to 19-21 year - provided harmonious filling psyche. By this age, the percentage of manifestations adequate responses to stimuli of society committed to 100% and the person can be considered the last social selection.
The causes of the rebellion of the third cycle hidden in a sudden realization: in addition to "want" and "I" is "necessary". From the point of view of Socionics - from the vital (individual) mental block - a children "want" and "I can" - personal development inevitably becomes a mental block (social) - adult unit "must". It begins active content and study functions of social norms and social experience. In the structure of the individual - is the weakest of the potential function (role function and mental function of pain). Work on them is tedious, which is why adolescence is such a complex.
By analogy with the previous cycle - parents should continue to exercise the "weak" mental functions, changing the approach. Mentoring has evolved into a partnership: parents - senior partners, a teenager - the junior partner. Train your weaknesses young person with the requirements of that society makes to man. In adolescents, weak ethics? - discuss the history of the relationship, tell about their experiences first love. Weak logic? - pay attention to the "logical" device of large cities, the logic of actions and events. Weak sensation? - Learn to pick up clothes, help to create an image, cook food together and go to the gym or pool. Weak intuition? - relaxation techniques and meditation, deepening of a information about the metaphysical laws of the universe will help fill the gap. And no criticism: jokes and comments on the "painful" function unstable teenage psyche - a sure way to intractable conflicts, grievances "for life", the deepest complexes psychoinformation distortion personality.
Teenager all looking to the future, and brick by brick building their worldview, dismissing authorities and rules. "Dismissal," accompanied by a desire to change the world and the rapid manifestation of emotions. Young man dangling from side to side, and his life is like a roller coaster. And with him on these slides and you are rushing, sometimes feeling helpless and threatens to suffocate anyone.
What to do? The main rule - do not leave the teenager alone with their questions and problems. Invaluable help now - your communication with them. Remember - the emerging information Intelligence! Excellent training for this age - knowledge of other cultures, travel, expanding intellectual horizons by studying and absorbing new information. That is - not a moment for anything stupid. Maximum fill a day of diverse activities. Anything goes: domestic duties, responsible for part of the family issues, joint economic affairs, for which very appropriate to keep quiet confidential conversation, leisure, travel, trips, vacation, watching and discussing films and books. Make friends with the young man, and you will discover the joy of communicating with the maturing personality! Your sincere pleasure of communicating with a son or daughter is bound to be mutual, and one day you will be surprised to find that your child has grown proud of you in front of their peers.
It recent years, when your child is within the boundaries of the family cocoon. By the end of the "seven-year" people should be ready to go out into society and start an independent life. Spend these wonderful years, really together, and all the future life will be illuminated by the warmth of love and mutual family support.
Teenager in this period is not only to acquire new knowledge, but also looking for his circle of friends and learns to choose "their" people for life and my way. This friend and first love, and authority. Become a "his" person, authority, best friend. For this purpose - satisfaction! Make sure that you have had for that respect. Work on yourself, develop, be restless. Teens in Crisis - this is a test for parents, and pass it as "excellent" is not easy.
By 21, a man is ready to enter into society, both in the open space. Ahead - a separate and independent life following a seven-year cycle. Him, he will hold to the active work to fill their most important mental functions - block "I know."
From the first three seven-year cycles depends the whole further course of life of man:
- 21 - 28 years. Cycle "I know myself."
- 28-35 years. The cycle of "I deserve the best."
- 35-42 years. Cycle "The first results of the life."
- 42-49 years. Cycle "and I know I can."
- 49-56 years. The cycle of "transformation."
- 56-63 years. Cycle "collection of stones."
- 63 - 70 years. The cycle of "Chance for Change".
- 70-77 years. The cycle of "Freedom and contemplation"
- 77-84 years. Cycle "Loneliness and harmony."
Release grown up son or daughter - is also the exam. Return it on time and excellent.
