How can the kid play hard! It should be a child "is not the first," or, for example, damage hack as he begins a personal mini "Armageddon" followed by hysterical, screaming. And most importantly - rapid reluctance to do more with what it is not yet a champion.
Worst of all, if you do not "rehearse" a child the ability to play, in the future blunders child will perceive more painful and hysterical - stronger. Why do you need such a touchy "cactus" for any reason, and unwillingness to be just the first?
Why are children always want to be first?
Because we do them to this urge and teach. We were originally important to our golden grudnichok more than other children scored in grams and centimeters, before anyone else got teeth, before anyone knew of children has taken the first small step, I learned to talk more words ...
Familiar? And these are our favorite contest: "Who was the first run so far to the store?" Or "Come on, who are the first to eat soup?" Any picture of our offspring - a masterpiece. Any application - a work of art.
Why "champions" are suffering from injuries?
No, to be the first, there is nothing to be ashamed of. This desire is formed to achieve the excellent quality of its goal to bring the case to the end. However, there is one "but". In domestic competitions or games wins a child - we often give in, not to upset the child.
And our little "usual" and the winner of the mother's brain gets in kindergarten - and... gets a large portion of frustration. It turns out that around the same clever and clever, some of them run faster or better mold from plasticine. This fact is akin to child stress.
How to teach a child to play: 7 rules
1. Allow the child to receive a negative experience and mistakes (Of course, if the actions do not threaten the health and life). Do not be afraid to say if the kid that all people make mistakes and learn from mistakes. Blurts out how it was possible to correct a mistake or do something better.
2. Do not ask his son to always be the bestFirst, because any failure can injure the child, and cope with such "blows of fate" baby is not able.
3. Find the kid the qualities that he is best manifestedOr classes in which it is most successful, and help to develop them. If the crumbs have something to do not like it, do not pull on the lasso. For example, if the baby is a good dancer, and a drawing he does not go, let more engaged in choreography and accumulate positive experience. On such a "cushion" the baby will be more comfortable to learn drawing.
4. Praise your toddler when he tried- so you will not have to lie in it and raise diligence and upostvo. For example, a child brought from kindergarten drawing, a little sloppy. What to do? Praise for the way the kid picked up color, and note: "I know that you know how to draw a lot neater. And the following figure you will be bright, and neat! "Such an approach is much better than" grow "in the child's ambitions in any case, be the first and best.
5. In no case do not sneer at the kidnot joking, even if you want to translate everything in a positive direction. The kid does not understand your "knight's move", and think that because it made fun of the "fiasco".
6. And of course, do not scold the child, if he stopped during a matinee or a mistake in the example of an open lesson, unlike painted fox etc. For you - it's an emotional discharge, and for the vulnerable baby - akin to tragedy.
7. Help your child learn to enjoy for the winner. After all, he wants him in case of victory rejoiced other - and not just Mom and Dad. A play and interesting because, you never know what will be the first, and someone - no.
