Children can not behave perfectly - it can not be the default. Needless to say, our little "Red Chief" will verify our nervous system to its resistance, sometimes obnoxious behavior and turbulent emotions. Well, as they otherwise distinguish good behavior from bad? Only our reaction. Mom and dad - a kind of "litmus test" by which a child learns "chemistry" perception of their moods, tantrums, violent failure to help, clean up toys, eat porridge, etc.
And such a "story whims" to be normal in every child, and another thing - how we, the parents, in his "wildness" react. And if we are pushing their offspring sometimes exhibit bad behavior punctually? What methods we should use to not push the favorite child to the "exploits" of disobedience?
shouting
Our cry if and acts on a child, then a very short time - because the baby is well developed defense system. Get used to scream, the child will stop at all to do anything at your request, if you do not increase the decibels. Do not forget the truth that scream we turn when show weakness. Children - excellent psychologists and quickly read the signal.
threatening
In one experiment, scientists, psychologists have found that children who had promised to severely punish if they sovrut were more likely to lie. Strength of the equal and opposite reaction, and threats only spoil the character of the child and... your relationship with him.
Deception and manipulation
The wise have long voiced the British educational truth: do not educate their children, they will still like you - educate yourself. If you use your arsenal of deception, the child very quickly unravel your tactics and will use it to respond to your attempts to communicate with him.
Physical punishment
This is generally not an option. In none of the cases. According to studies, if the child is subjected to corporal punishment, it can become more aggressive, withdrawn, and for his self-punishment is akin to "guillotine". And most importantly, that the child will adapt, how to avoid punishment, but does not correct the behavior. To remedy need positively charged energy of parental love and faith.
Silence in response
Remember the parable of the eastern three cups of rice? Worst of all, when parents are indifferent to the conflict, or pretend that they do not care how it behaves child. Silence to show their resentment of a child? Not a solution either. The family should be someone an adult.
Avoiding reaction... to another room
The same "unsatisfactory" parents, as in the previous version. The child is very important to understand how to react to his behavior of adults, that its manifestations "wrong", and for this you need to talk with your child. Just do not blame the child, his character, and "call a spade" only his specific behavior.
The game of good and bad cop
Love to play mom and dads in these educational "swing." It is better to discuss their common tactics alone, and then issue a verdict mutual offspring, not to push the child to manipulate that strongly undermine parental authority.
smile, encouragement and affection bad behavior
Yes, you may feel that your child looks funny when he begins to eat with your hands, and then licking fingers or swinging on a chair at the table, repeating after you accidentally dropped by "Bad" word. If not immediately show the kid how not to behave, because the outside is unpleasant, uncomfortable, then it will be harder to convince the child to the credibility of its rules.
Of course, we adults are not robots, but human beings, with all their weaknesses and can not always be 100% objective and kids. We love them very much and we have the right to forgive them small "unsatisfactory" by the behavior. Often only remember that our children - like a sponge, they absorb instantly, and bad and good. A much more difficult to retrain.
