The modern successful woman must be a virtuoso work & life balance, that is, unable to keep all - to build a career and to achieve impressive results in business, engage in self-development, but do not forget about the family and education children. Today, successful businesswoman confident - to educate your child a leader, you need their personal example to motivate him to victory and achievement. Protracted decrees and total custody this will not help. It is important to develop independence in children, only because they have proven successful in the future.
How to achieve this? His advice to kolobok.ua divided Vice-President of "IT integrator," and part-time mother of two children, Hope Omelchenko:
Step 1.Formiruem independence
When children are just beginning to literally take their first steps, parents, naturally, leans over them and support them. The problem is that many of them are "frozen in this pose," and simply can not stop to control every step of their child.
Child makes sense from childhood accustomed to independence. To do this, it is important to form an inner conviction in it - "I can." Now young parents often indulge their children so that they develop a belief that everything in life for them will seek it mom and dad, and it will last forever. As a result, these children are just getting used to the fact that in case of any problems, or even microscopic household complexity need to immediately run to her parents for help. And very surprised when they are asked to operate independently.
In my opinion, it is essential from childhood to teach children to be self-sufficient, thus increasing the chances of the child to become himself. Autonomy and independence - the fundamentals of the human psyche. It is very important to the child as soon as possible become aware that it was his own, not his parents' actions lead to results, albeit as a minor.
Moms - Trainer Coaching tool worth using GROW. Is an abbreviation of the names of four stages - Goal (The goal), Reality (Reality), Options (Options) and Will (intention). After going through all these stages, a child can consciously to achieve the goals that it sets itself. And ask your child specific questions. What do you want to achieve now, in this month, in this kind of activity? What are the goals set for ourselves how resources possess, that will be your end result? Particularly disturbing moms can ask: "How can I help you with your plans?"
Step 2. teach responsibility
To be a leader, your child has the sense to learn to take responsibility for their actions and to make decisions, that is, think about it, then plan to take this or that decision, to implement its plans and even correct the inevitable errors. On the one hand, this will allow him to begin to experience life, to dream and to formulate goals and ambitions, on the other hand - to learn to achieve your goals, easily respond to possible setbacks, overcome them.
It's summer - the best time for the formation of habits of independent thinking. This is an optimal time to help the children to achieve short-term wins, that they succeeded, what would they do not engage.
Step 3. We train in the form of the game
Learning activities in the form of traditional lessons can be perceived by children as something boring and unpleasant. Therefore, it is important to teach a child to learn in the game format. This is especially good if the family is not one but several children. In this case, the older children may well act as mentors for younger mentors, to inspire them to make more efforts to learn. This is useful for everyone. Parents when it is better to observe the process from the outside and as far as possible to minimize their participation in it. I advise you to drive away the idea that your children will not succeed if they cease to take care of, not to send at every step, and do not control their every minute. Do not engage in micro-management, over-zealously pushing the child toward a particular choice.
Step 4. To attract domestic affairs
Many development experts argue that success in professional activities depends also on whether the person was engaged in normal childhood chores. My advice - as frequently as possible to involve it in everyday household affairs, so he got used to help others. In the future, it will certainly help your little leader wisely and efficiently in a team. It is important to work out his inner stimulus "roll up your sleeves": "Someone has to do it, so why would not I?"
Step 5. Immerse in a motivational environment
Constantly immerse the child in a motivational environment that will stimulate the development of their leadership skills. You can gently show him a brochure with a good summer camp or send a video of the school robotics or painting, chance to tell something interesting about this place or offer a child just to go and see it for eyes. This approach is often very soft stimulation is triggered. My advice is to give him the book. Very cool option - Sean Covey's "The 7 habits of highly effective teens. How to be cool and advanced "- let him read.
Step 6. Build relationships "on equal terms"
And last, but very important. With the child is always to communicate on an equal and just treat it - as an adult. Parents should always talk with their children, to be interested in how was their day, to discuss their achievements and the most vivid impressions. But do not be afraid to talk about the problems and challenges on how to deal with them. This talk will be open and free - children will not be afraid that you ask them about the assessment or problems at school, get used to discuss with you our achievements, advice about how their improve.
Future leader builds his career, using win-win strategy. Relationship "on equal terms" with the child allows him to understand the essence of this strategy and successfully use it in your life in the future.
Step 7. Developing emotional intelligence
It is very important to teach the child to recognize their own and others' emotions. In order that he could well understand their "framework" and opportunities. A child with a high level of emotional intelligence to better manage their emotions, can easily cope with problematic or stressful situation, a good understanding of their environment, is able to make friends and grow classy team player.
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