We do not advocate for ensuring that all children are brought up in the Leadership way. However, the leadership qualities in varying degrees, need to be a child with any type of temperament.
And the inclinations that are in the "base set" of almost every kid should develop, not to oppress, allowing the 6 offensive parenting mistakes. The good news is that you have time to fix it.
We prohibit CHILD TAKING CHANCES
Children under 7 years of age learn about his body - his potential, opportunities, and the 7-year period, it is important to give children plenty to run, jump, learn how to climb trees, etc. And instead of to guide the baby and hedging it - be there when the baby explores their possibilities - we are either out of laziness or because of personal fear and cowardice overlap child that important channel development.
Why is that bad? If the child does not live is the first 7 years in the activity, it may be "skewed", when a teenager begins to actively communicate with peers and test the boundaries of their influence. And if you are in early childhood all the time booed on the child, requiring him to obedience and perseverance, it will be difficult to encourage the teen to be active in the classroom and during school hours. It happens that these docile "Mama's children" fall into outsiders in the classroom and experiencing ridicule from peers. Why hold your hands like a child "trap"? It helps when a child asks.
WE DO NOT allow a child to receive important INJURY
As European psychologists have noticed, people who in adulthood suffer from phobias - a perfect mania purity, fear of heights or touching - as a child did not play with other children, not amused mobile games ...
Why is that bad? If a child falls and strikes his knee a few times, he realizes that this is normal. You can get up, cry, mama will blow on the knee - everything can run on playing. The child needs to try to defend the toy even get sovochkom head. Teenager is important to quarrel and hopelessly fall in love, to the right in the future to build relationships, not stepping on multiple "rake". Otherwise, - the child is likely to fear and low self-esteem grows carrier.
We are too admire
You say, what a paradox! Everyone says that the child must be loved only for what it is he. And now it turns out - all this can not be done? No, it's just different. Praise is necessary, but for things deserved - if the maturing child is really invested in some work, achievement.
Why is that bad? Because we sometimes so children grow up confident in its uniqueness. Imagine how they would feel themselves if the only people who admired - the parents?
ON US crushes GUILT
And we can not find the strength to clearly tell your child "no", "no" or "not now", simply did not find the strength to say "no" and "not now." We believe that we have thus been deprived of the child care, after working all day long, or can not afford the child every desire ...
Why is that bad? Because a child's boundaries are blurred and the realization that for some desires need to be overcome, and some - to postpone for a while or eliminate / replace the other.
WE DO NOT talk about their past mistakes
And deprive their child is very efficient way to compare themselves with their teachers, to understand that it's not as scary as it seems and everything is really fixable, if you really try.
Why is that bad? Because the child is afraid that his mistakes are so desperate and like no one has previously made, so it is not clear how to get out of the situation, fix made. If you tell us that such a "disaster" occurred and the parents, the child will increase confidence in the world, disappear fear of the new and most importantly - will the response of trust channel to the parents.
We confuse the concept of "intelligence" and "maturity"
Today's children compared to us at their age - geeks. they draw a lot of information from the Internet, but this flow of knowledge does not make the child mature. And if you think you are smarter than your child is, the better it is adapted to the reality, you're wrong. Child-leader who is successful and socially adapted - not always the smartest.
Why is that bad? Because we find ourselves in a trap: so many have given the child in terms of development, and the son or daughter up inactive and are content small, afraid to express themselves, to take up the serious matter, claim high position. Why? Because afraid to take responsibility for the new and unknown, to work side-by-side with the masses of other people, to govern them.
P.S. Raise a child leader as you know, is not easy. And at the same time - and not too difficult. Do not suffocate the baby overprotective, and forbid not to take risks and make mistakes. Let him seek his way, knowing that somewhere near those likes, and trusts to help. If you ask her.
