Have you noticed that your favorite baby begin to tell you the truth. There tell lies on the little things, then there is not recognized. For you it is a complete surprise and grief as an educator?
Do not worry, the situation can be saved. Let's see why our children, we lie and what methods you should use to help them tell the truth. After all, to tell the truth to an adult for a child - it's a lot of work and a ton of excitement, lying on a small heart.
Why do children deceive us?
Situation: You have baked a beautiful cake, and at the time of hoisting dessert on the table noticed that the part of the cream brazenly lapped. Who could it be, if the house is no cat or dog or hamster? The husband could, but do not like the default sweet. Asked who licked the cake, the son, whose face keeps the remains of dried cream, desperately swears with an innocent look that did not approach the cake. Why is he doing? Because different CAN NOT. So the children are deceiving us for five main reasons.
The first reason. They are afraid of punishment for his offense. Baby difficult to be honest, if it was already seriously punished, hear bitter reproaches from my mother and father for the last prank. Admit it, you, too, can be turned out in front of a formidable leader, not wanting to hear from him angry remarks in his address.
The second reason.The child is afraid that you will no longer treat him well, cease to love him and show affection.
Reason Three. Children curious as to how you respond to their unrealistic stories that they tell, to make an impression on you.
A result, the child and the parents fall into the "vicious circle": the more severe the child was punished for lying or offense, the less your child wants to be recognized the next time. And what, after all pranks and climb out of the child... And when even naughty and test the world on the strength and goodwill, but as a child? It is clear, but what should parents do?
5 ways to help your child to tell the truth
Moms and dads need to look the truth in the face and admit that the mischief child - this is normal, so the bowls and cups will fall and be broken, cat someone will pull the tail, and on the walls from time to time will appear "Rock painting".
Oh, and a cream cake, too, will sometimes lapped. C'est la vie. If you have given birth to a child, let him be a kid. And create a safer environment in which your call will always tell the truth for real implementation. Create a favorable atmosphere 5 ways to help thesein.
1. Do not yell at the child, if he nashalil
Breathe in, breathe out and talk with your child in a calm voice. And if it's tempting to chastise my child, imagine what kind of anger distorted face he sees in front of him. Horror... And then learn how to do and teach the child not to look guilty, and seek a way out of the situation. Licked cream - be kind a little whip cream and neatly put it on the "spoiled" section.
2. Do not push the child to lie - let him save face
Do not ask him threatening questions to which you already know the answer: "You have already collected toys?" "Lessons are made?". It is better to ask this: "How much time do you need to complete the lessons", "What toys do you still need to remove?".
3. Think about what the child feels
Try to understand, to understand why the child is not told you the truth. Do not report child and calmly say, "This story you came up to me not to disappoint? You were uncomfortable and scared to tell the truth? Do not worry, let's talk about what happened. " So you will know the truth, and will increase the level of confidence in itself.
4. Rate child honesty
The kid confessed, and you tell me the answer that you understand how it was difficult, and so you respect him for his brave act adult. Tell me, how do you it was important to hear the truth, because you are very worried about their child.
5. Allow the child to make mistakes and forgiving him
We are fallible - because we know what the right choice. And if pipsqueak did something wrong, discuss, and how can / should be done? What did it cost to say or not say? As a child go next time in a similar situation?
P.S. And do not lie to your child yourself. Do not forget that our fidgets ears on top.
