Children's education - a delicate matter that requires an individual approach to each child. In each country, to the parents raising the child, subject to different requirements: for example, in our country, a slap on the ass and increased tone is not considered punishable acts. In other countries, things are different.
Nowadays, everyone decides what method to use education to their child. But still there are a few proven experience and time, the recommendations that accurately useful for many parents.
Pamela Drukerman book "French children do not spit food" produced a very good impression of readers in different countries. After its release the entire world became jealous of the French, who, thanks to a special method of education, children quiet sleep at night just a diaper, eat everything without the slightest whims and self-confident "the brain bones. "
But if you ask my mother-Frenchwoman, what method it applies to their children, and what secrets are used, it is likely to become puzzled. Because without exception French moms believe that in fact there are no secrets. They just act intuitively, guided by common sense, "watching" for the child. And the word "educate" only gives them the association with prohibitions and punishments.
However, reading the "French children do not spit eating," you will not find something supernatural or unknown. All that is there - at the hearing, only the author elaborates on this in a few theses with illustrative examples.
For example, the French are very clearly divided time on the adults and children that allows parents to spend the evening as they want. French child, after reading a bedtime story or watching a cartoon, without hysterics goes to sleep, and the parents, poured himself a glass of well-deserved day of Bordeaux, quietly go on their business. It is not necessary that the child at this time in the bedroom was fast asleep. He can deal with personal matters in which parents do not intervene, respecting his right to privacy. But the child, in turn, will never go down in the parents' bedroom. This separation of personal time is not only in the evening, but the weekend and holidays. Thus, the French parents show that the world is not only revolves around their children, educating at the same time respect for themselves and others.
Another French children are taught to be patient. This does not mean that they are, for example, starved child hunger by raising willpower. Just in their opinion, the baby is quite able to withstand a half hour without cookies, if you will soon be dinner. The French snacks are not allowed. Perhaps not everyone is generally pleasant, unlike the previous one, many hold free feeding "on the first call." And this applies to both infants and older children. But the French brought up that way.
In their opinion, if a child to indulge in everything, the desires and whims will grow like a snowball. And patience - like a muscle that needs to be all the time to train. This approach, according to the French, will make your life much safer, because the child, which revolves around the universe in general, it makes no sense to grow.
Actually, the French allow children to live their lives literally from the cradle: allowed to make mistakes and correct them, without pangs of parents. According to them, the children from an early age have the right to make their own choices. They believe that overprotection - net harm, not ever bringing positive results. And the French against the acceleration of development of the child. This does not mean that their children are absolutely no deal at a young age, but they are 100% firmly believe that a child should go through all the stages of development in a natural pace, rather than being constantly loaded in circles, sports sections and developing schools. Many people do not agree with such arguments, for example, the Americans, with whom all time paralleled in the book. And how to act in reality - a decision for each individual.
In short, Drukerman book will be of interest to families who already have children and those who are just planning to become parents. And all because the author describes not only the rules of conduct with children, but also the French way of life in general, and their relationship to each other and to life, the distribution of roles in the family, tells the story of notorious French harmony and well-known love for delicious food. "Live in such a way to enjoy it," - in fact, so this is the most important rule of the French.
