When a child is born in a family, each parent is sure that this small, smelling of milk, honey lump certainly grow cheerful, obedient, respectful and pleasing parents person. But a pipsqueak growing and problems related to his upbringing, growing up with him, and the parents are faced with the reality, and sometimes have no idea what to do with it.
There are plenty of theories about how to raise children, but most often they are for those who have an inexhaustible supply of the internal energy and patience. And what about those who have "battery limit" at the end, and after it - a nervous breakdown?
It is in these moments somewhere evaporate acquired theory of the mind, to build a strategy. And so it is not enough clear instructions on how to quickly remedy the situation. Perhaps this book will be Nigel Latta (psychologist, backed by many years experience, and experience in dealing with their own two children), "Before your child will drive you crazy."
Agree, saying the name of the book, and, pretty, funny and unusual. Content is also fully consistent: the text thoroughly permeated with humor, and in some moments - even irony. Probably, this is what helped the author not to go crazy in difficult situations with their children.
Latta does not offer to train children. It shows the need to focus on the relationship with them. He believes that this is the most important in education, considering that child - the same person, to be reckoned with as an adult, but to be able to stay for it mostly.
Through the work of Latta, you will be able to understand the features of a child's brain development, perception limitations associated with age. Due to the turn-based strategy, learn how to create a personal action plan, since "none of we have a big thick book with answers, "but there are several" indispensable foundations, which should always be kept in memory. "
Here are the basic rules and concepts, following which it would be easier not to go crazy when communicating with a loved child, offers "memorize" the author of every parent, without exception:
• Relationships, relationships, relationships again. "Even if you forget about the rest of the rules, it should sit firmly in your memory"
• To love their children easily, to find pleasure in this difficult, but "ease and playfulness - a kind of lubricant family life, without which its wheels and gears will rotate with difficulty"
• Children - a piranha, and for "piranha main goal in life - to devour everything that gets in their way. Children's main goal in life - to attract the attention of others, whatever it it is not worth it. "
• Encourage good, ignore the badBecause "if you constantly pay attention to bad behavior, as a result, you grow monsters"
• Children need boundaries. "The World without Borders - a very dangerous and scary place in the world for the little guy."
• Be consistent or at least try to be consistent. And "never scold yourself if in some cases, you will not be able to stick to the planned rules."
• Do not forgive the terrible behavior! Never!
• Be sure to make a plan, "Before something happens".
• Any behavior - is communication and even "bad behavior - it's not just bad behavior, it's a way of communicating."
• Do not fight with chaos. Chaos is invincible and fight with him is useless.
It seems to me, knowing and accepting these rules, you really will be easier to perceive reality, not reproaching himself incompetent parenting issue. This book will help you to organize existing knowledge, adding to their specific techniques and life examples, and perhaps because of this you will never and thought about what your child is driving you mind.
