After the resounding success of the book "French children do not spit eating" by Pamela Drukerman decided to create a series of French education. Next her masterpiece called "French parents do not give up."
Unlike the first book, there is the presentation of information is quite different: all distributed by category, in the form of concrete advice, without too much "water". Because of this opus is easy to read and remember. Among other things, at the end of the book you will find recipes of dishes for a common table, which is important for mothers, every day cooking separate meals for the kids.
So, from a new book Drukerman we learn the main rule of the French: it is impossible for life to devote to the child. Of course, the parent caring for the child is not more than a voluntary perpetual care of their child, even in adulthood, but the French education includes important idea is the fact that anyone, and especially parents, is vital and personal space time. And it does not mean that the time should be allocated only when everything has been done to the child. It should be clearly defined framework for personal hobbies, work, socializing with friends.
Another important idea that French women carried on the fore - mothers ideal does not exist. After reading this chapter, many women will be able to relax and let go of the feeling of guilt towards their children and family. Working women are driving themselves to the eternal running in circles: trying to make a successful career and at the same time try to be perfect mother for the child, as well as perfect wife for her husband, thus, working in two shifts without a break and recreation. So the French have a favorite aphorism: "Ideal mothers does not exist" and do not try to be.
It is also important in the life of a French woman and another rule: it must always have its own source of income. In spite of the perfect marriage, a Frenchwoman always thinking ahead: "And suddenly everything when something changes? After all, no one is immune from this. " Therefore, she is bound to have a profession that is at any time able to provide her and her child. This rule, of course, a little romance, but it helps to feel free and independent. Perhaps it is, paradoxically, makes their marriage stronger.
And there are rules in the book you will find a lot more. With some can agree, some even need to be challenged. Hardly some who would argue that French parents are doing everything right, and they all have perfect children grow up. Rules, collected in the book, just show the traditional French approach to education based on common sense. They are very logical, understandable and readily available for any parent.
I liked that the red line in the French education of passes on the following idea: in dealing with children should be combined rigor and freedom, which the French give their kids in full, assuming that this is what their children may become independent. Listening to their children, they do not rush immediately and unconditionally fulfill all of their requirements, as believe that in this case the child, in the end, becomes a demanding and hysterical, and this is unacceptable in French families. This, according to French parents, and is the harmony of relationships.
This book - not a panacea for all problems, and a set of mechanisms by which you can learn to be "correct" their parents and raise good children. And finally, the main thing in any upbringing - remain calm and balanced in any situation, thus giving a good example child (it is only possible to show by example how to do), it is always with him as honest and just love it for what it is.
