It often happens that parents explain to the child the rules of conduct, only stronger than him being bullied. How better to talk with the children so that they learn to be careful on the street, on the way to school
It is natural that parents want their child to be sociable andcurious. To grow an active and explore the world. Yet many mothers and fathers understand that teaching kids the basics of security, only more intimidating them. But you can do everything completely differently! Consider the basic mistakes that parents and formulate rules for safe training.
Top 5 mistakes in security training
1. Do not perform the projection of a child
The most common argument that parents bring the child to have learned some safety rule - is the story of the terrible consequences that await him if he will not comply with these rules.
As usual there are parents"If you keep me on, then lost and never see my mom and dad!", "Do not talk to strangers, and the bad uncle you take away! "," You'll fall! "," Poskolzneshsya! "," blow "," Without Hats freeze! "," break your leg! "" Look around, and now you car knock! " - is a classic programming the child to fail.
As it takes baby In fact, the baby is put the fear of a similar situation. Rather than keep it, we, on the contrary, we call fear of specific events. The child begins to think that it can happen something bad. And if he suddenly falls in potentially hazardous conditions, instead of acting correctly, it will simply be afraid.
How to teach childrensecurity Blurts solutions to complex problems in the stories that have taken place with third-party characters (fictional or fantastic - "There was a cat," "There's a girl"). In this case, the baby will not present itself as a victim, and see the situation from the outside and can calmly discuss it with you. By the behavior of the character he will understand what caused a dangerous situation and whether it was possible to avoid it.
A dangerous situation can also sculpt from clay, draw, play with toys, discuss while watching a cartoon or reading a book.
Teaching find a way out of a difficult situation, we thus also occur in children resourcefulness, creativity, the ability to make quick decisions.
2. Down with the taboos!
Grab a hot pot - burned, but most take it never will be. Take sloppy needle - ukoleshsya, but touch it no longer wants. As long as the baby is not his experience mistakes, parents want to warn and protect it from all possible trouble. Of course, the easiest way out - to set restrictions.
As usual there are parents"You can not open the door to strangers", "You can not climb onto the window sill", "You can not cross the road at a red light." Parents somehow believe that these phrases will help your child to avoid mistakes.
As it takes baby Kids all restrictions are tough. This is due to the fact that they are just beginning to develop thought processes. They do not react, do not listen to, not because they want to do something out of spite, but simply because they do not understand the meaning of some words or incorrectly interpret them.
How to teach children safety Instead, the categorical prohibition formulate the correct resolution limited. For example: "You can not take the candy and sweets from strangers." So we just scared and confused. In what exactly strangers, and why? A cookie - it too sweet?
Establishes rules: "If you treat something, always ask my permission." Be sure to specify whether all the child correctly understood. Let repeat in your own words. One more example. You speak: "Do not run away from me!" How does this alter in the manual? say: "Always come to me and say, if you want somewhere to go alone or with someone." It is important that this rule should be introduced to the age of three. Kids, even while with my mother in an apartment, should inform her where they went. Thus the habit to comply with this setup.
Reframe the negative scenario, turning their negative forecasts clear from the behavior of the child's statement.
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3. Control your emotions!
For parents to worry about the child - perfectly normal. The world seems dangerous and unfriendly, and I want to protect children from all. Every accident we tend to project on his family. And these experiences affect the emotional state that children feel.
As usual there are parents Mom is nervous, telling the child to a dangerous situation. She stammers, speaks quickly, while she is often the heart beats, the tone of voice is higher or lower than normal.
As it takes baby The child sees that his mother (adult and bold), talking about something very frightened, and concludes that this situation and it is also necessary to be afraid.
How to teach children safety For safety training should be treated like any other occupation (the development of speech, thinking). Pick a time when baby with interest perceive information. Let the environment is conducive to quiet conversation, do not do it for five minutes before leaving the house, in the hustle and bustle: does not help!
Calm yourself before you interact with your child on a complex subject. After all, 80% of the information we receive through the emotions, tone, and only 20% - through the words.
4. Live without the particle "no"
By its fifth anniversary of the child hears on average 15-20 thousand negative attitudes, because of this, the baby sometimes develops uncertainty in the forces, the child may become confused, to panic, to succumb to the dangerous situation circumstances.
As usual there are parents We think that we apply these prohibitions only in exceptional cases. But it is worth a watch, and found that the particle "no" is very popular.
As it takes baby Forbidding, we awaken a child's interest in the "forbidden fruit", and sometimes the desire to do something out of spite.
How to teach children safety Most bans can be rephrased so that they are not used by the particle "no" (your subconscious "no" does not notice). Formulate so that the child was instructed to do. According to one theory, children unwittingly thrown a piece of "not" from what they hear. We say "do not run", and he... runs!
As we usually say
- Do not hurt the dog, and it will bite you.
- Do not talk to strangers.
- Do not ride a bicycle along the road.
- Do not step on the hatch.
How to say no ban
- We only look at the dog and all.
- If you want someone to meet and talk about yourself, first ask me.
- By bike skate alone in the yard / in the park.
- We always go around manholes.
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