Spoiled child brings the parents a lot of problems with which they are sometimes unable to cope. Loving mom and dad usually do not realize that frequent tantrums and whims - a consequence of their eternal indulgence kid. Therefore, it is important to parents in time to understand the alarm bells and decide how to act properly in this situation.
It is noteworthy that a spoiled child from early childhood understands and feels his power over parents and boldly uses it. Naturally, the older it can not prohibit anything or force him to do something.
signs spoiled
It spoiled if your child is not difficult to determine. It is important to critically assess the behavior of the beloved offspring and see how the situation started and what to do.
1.Greed. Unwillingness to share their toys tend to kids up to three years, a maximum of up to 5 - 6. And the more to ask to share the baby's favorite toy or a chocolate bar, it leads to hysteria.
2.frequent tantrums. Kids up to 3 years old can arrange a tantrum because of the inability to express their emotions. If such a manner is stored in older age, it is a serious cause parents to think about the reasons for this behavior.
Sometimes children's tantrums maddening and conditionally divided into 7 types.
3.Strong dependence on parents. Reluctance to let go of their parents or hiking in the garden with cries (after a period of adaptation) - this manifestation spoiled when the child does not want to learn to feel comfortable in the new environment.
4.The requirement to prepare his favorite food. If every day your baby is growing up requires only cook what he wants, and does not eat soup or a side dish just because he does not like, it is a clear sign of spoiled.
5.constant dissatisfactionExpressed by a child, he says that it is too much and too often let go at it on occasion.
6.It never helps.After three years of age should teach a child to clean up after a toy. If the mother and then goes to him and takes away, the baby understands that nobody wants to help and will not do so in the future.
7.Boorishness and rudeness. Constant indulgence of children's whims do child rude, sometimes even cruel, but also produce consumer attitude to adults.
8. Minion often have to persuade and to seek a compromise with him. To negotiate with the baby's parents are looking for arguments and excuses peace treaty with him again, going at it on occasion.
9.Manipulation adults. Children's ways of manipulation are usually tears, tantrums, insults and other.
10.Parents often feel ashamed for the behavior of their offspring. So, spoiled child often interrupts adults, rude behavior in public, shouting, running or even arranges violent tantrums in front of a large number of people.
11.No accountability for misconduct. If a spoiled kid hurt another child, and this was not followed by any reaction of adults (For example, comment or explanation for his offense), the child does not understand that you need to answer for misconduct. In the future it may become a serious problem in human behavior.
12. Misunderstanding failures. Kids are not allowed to understand the failures before the age of four. If you are older faults that parents can not fulfill now meet violent hysteria, it is time to take action to change the situation.
How to deal with tantrums: Psychologist
1. Stay calm
Baby violent negative emotions must be met unshakable calmness of parents: the only way to keep control of the situation and not allow hysteria even more to roam. If the baby is crying and crying, especially in public, do not be afraid to be firm and do not think about what to think or say your address. A child absolutely quiet say: "We talk on the subject with you only when you are completely calm down."
2. Be aware of the problem at the first sign of spoiled and immediately re-start
The sooner you go the way of solving the problem of spoiled, the faster will be the result. So if tantrums follow one another, and the child is manipulating you, review their methods of education and approaches to child.
3. Stick sequence in education
If you are banned child jumping on the bed or eating cookies on the couch watching television, and later he does the same and most of you do not have any reaction, such impunity usually leads to a loss of credibility in the eyes of their parents children. As a result, the child will not listen to you in the future and will do only what his heart desires.
4. learn to give
If you have a joint campaign for a walk or to the shop accompanied by the purchase of new toys, because the child cried and demanded to buy it, you need to learn to divert his attention and does not go on about every time. The child is not so urgent to adopt new regulations, to offer him an alternative: for example, instead of buying new cars or dolls invite him along to play the ball on the court.
5. Enter the responsibilities for the child.
To the kid had a feeling of responsibility for their actions, to accustom him to the fact that he also has household tasks: cleaning up after dinner plate from the table or toys to make the bed or fold things. And let him first bad will turn out, but he will know that he is sure to do.
You will also be useful to know, as it is impossible to raise a child, to avoid emotional abuse.
